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lately Ive been having feeling towards the same sex. And it kinda freaks me out. My bestfriend says Ill get through the stage. But It freaks me out whenever Im out bra shopping or bathing suit shopping. My family is like super christian and they flip out everytime I bring over a gay friend. Im scared that this isnt just a stage of my life. What do I do if I really am gay?

Being gay, bi, straight etc is all a matter of how you feel. Everyone here has numerous opinions on the matter, but what matters is what you think. In fact, you do not even need to label yourself. These labels are based on societal norms of what male and females are supposed to be. The most important thing to know is that gender is fluid...meaning it is not black and white. You can be born male, female, or intersex, but despite these things you can identify yourself as more "masculine" or "feminine" and then can be attracted to people who are more masculine or feminine, male or female or intersex. If it helps you could map yourself on a sort of spectrum, I myself was born female, identify as a female, and am attracted to women...but if this were put on a spectrum (like a line from left to right) i would not fall all the way to one side or another.

(I know the above is confusing but please message me if you are interested in what I am saying and I can draw it out for you)

If you are just going through a stage, that is completely normal, if you continue to be attracted to the same sex then that is normal too! Do not feel that you have to label yourself based on the titles society has offered. You are your own complex person!

Now if you are actually gay, and the part of your question reffering to your family is what you are primarily worried about is how christian your family is, do not worry. I know plenty of gay men and women who come from incredibly christian backgrounds. If you message me back we can talk about this more...and interpretations of the bible are not always what they appear to be.

I hope this helps, I didnt want to go on if you disagree with what I have said or if they are not the answers you are looking for!

Good luck finding yourself, and never be afraid of who you are! The people that matter in your life will stay with you through anything and everything!

-K

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so im a female an i was wondering what are some good things to use to masterbate that will al so make me cum/squirt ?
thanks

I do not understand why people dont think that this advice cant be given, afterall it is the sex section, if it cant be given then why is there a sex section?

something you could try is using your fingers, and using a lubrcant made to intensify women pleasure, you can find them at a cvs in either the feminine care isle/ family planning isle, another option is to buy a vibrator, you can find them online at places like athenas or you can go to your local spencers.

i hope this helps!

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i want to finger myself i have tired once but i got my period the next day.
how do i make it easy for my fingers to slip into my fanny?

ok well by fanny i assume you meen but, but when you say period it makes me thing vagina so i will answer for both.

for your but you want to buy lubricant, you can get it at someplace like a cvs or duane reed. if you cant buy lubricant (although this is not the most ideal solution) you could use something like baby oil or vaseline. you need to make sure that you read the label of anything you buy to ensure that you are not alergic to anything, and before using it on a more sensitive part of your body, test the reaction on less sensitive piece of skin like your arm.

for your vagina, one natural thing you can do is to turn yourself on before fingering... something like rubbing your clitoris to make yourself get "wet" before inserting your fingers... then insert slowly to ensure they are covered in your natural wetness before starting to finger yourself. if this does not work, again you could use the suggestion above, trying to buy lube or something of that nature. but remember to test it out first!

i hope this helps!

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i dont know if this is the right category. and i forgot what they call it but when the girl gets wet and stuff like in her underwear it comes out clear right>? then sometimes it will like dry white?
well when i get back from being with my boyfriend and i go to the bathroom when i wipe i get alot of it at times cause well be doing stuff like touching eachother and kissing and just touchy feely stuff./ im a virgin and so is he were both 17. well im kinda always tempted to taste it.
i mean the guys taste it if there eating a girl out. so i kinda wanted to know how it would taste to my boyfriend from my point of view. but im scared like are we able to do that i dont see whats wrong with it but im asking u guys! thnks in advance
oh and wut does it taste like and wut does guy sperm taste lke?

there isn't a problem with tasting it, it isn't going to do you any harm at all...sometimes you can end up tasting yourself if your bf/gf kisses u after or has u lick there fingers after they finger you. your just curious... everyone tastes different but for the most part it tastes relatively salty, its not a very strong taste (but again dont be alarmed if you dont taste this way because everyone is different) and a guy tastes similar, just a different consistency.

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hey guys my girrlfriend is coming over next weekend and i want to eat her out and finger her for the first time. ive seen her vagaina before but i dont know what to do to pleasure her like that. like i just dont know what parts to touch or antyhing so advice would be great. thanks

Hey so first make sure how far she wants to go...as in does she want to go as far as you fingering her (penetration) or just stimulating her clit... so the first thing u want to do is make sure your tongue is solid, and then use it to lick her clit (use the tip of your tongue not the whole thing) and go in a constant motion (perhaps circles or up and down) and as she gets more aroused continue to increase the speed. to penetrate her make sure to go slow unless she directs you otherwise, start with one finger, then going to maybe 2 or 3 depending on her preference. make sure you do this after she is aroused and wet to make sure there is natural lubrication (unless using lube).

so if you dont know where the clitoris is, it is at the top of the vagina, its a circular bump (you can google this for a diagram if you want) and that is the most sensitive part of her body and when fingering her/ using your tongue focus on that area and you will be fine.

hope this helps, send me a message if you want more detailed responses/ more specific questions

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how do you do it? I mean what are you exactly supposed to do with your tongue? And what does it taste like....Detail would be very appreciated, and tips too

OK so honestly its not that big of a deal. Unlike you were previously told, yes there will be a scent... that scent is also a natural part of human attraction. Also at first you will taste something but after a minute or so you wont taste anything besides your own saliva. with your tongue, you should make sure that you dont go right for her clit first, tease her a little and then go and thats what you want to lick. the faster you can the better! also its good to suck on her clit to, and when using the tongue dont necessarily go at it like an ice cream cone with long licks, use the tip of your tongue too... it takes practice to do it perfectly, but trust me u will get a reaction as soon as you make contact with her clit. also the best advice i can give you is to talk to her, and tell her to tell you what she wants... nobody knows better than she does so make sure you use communication!

i hope this helps!

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Essence of Beauty Kabuki Brush

where can i buy this product?

i googled it but found it nowhere


i went on the website and it was so whack and lame

i swear!!!


if you do know where how much is it?

Well i dont know where you are located but you can buy many types of essense of beauty products at CVS, look in the skin care isle/ the isle with things like tweezers and crap, and some stores also have them in their own little sections as endcaps (those things at the end of the isle) because essense of beauty will pay them to do that
(haha i work at cvs and deal with this product all the time!) i hope this helped!

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