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Hi! Can you tell me what web browser you think is the best one to use and why? There are so many now I don't even know which one is going to be safest and hopefully still fast. Does anyone know? (link)
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As a professional web developer, I try and use a wide array of web browsers daily, if not all of them! The three top contenders are Google Chrome, Mozilla Firefox and Safari.
The fastest, most secure and most stable, is by far Google Chrome. Unfortunately, Firefox has lost their way in recent years. Chrome allows you to sync your history, bookmarks, etc between computers using your Google account, so you have you info wherever you are! Plus it\'s the fastest, hands-down. Also, incognito mode is great for safe shipping, even on shared computers. Hope that helps!
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I am 16. My bf is 19, we have been together for over 3 years. I love him very much, with all my heart. He has NEVER forced, pressured or even suggested we have sex, even though I've been 16 for over half a year. He always says, he is only ready when he is sure I am ready... but how will I know?
My mum is ok with it all, she really likes my bf, she says he treats me right. She has always said that when I am ready I will know, and as long as it is for love, and protected, she is ok with me having sex.
But how do I know? In my head it is like:
- I am scared (will it hurt? will I be good? what do I do? will i feel different after?)
- I am confused (we have done other stuff... I like the say it feels, i want to have sex)
- I am in love (I really do love him with all my heart)
But I seems to find excuses. Not excuses for other people, just excuses for me, in my own head. I don't want to regret it. Will I know?
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Dear Asker,
Being in love is awesome, isn't it! Firstly, I'm a guy, so this might be out there. The first time I had sex I was 20 and it was with the lady I married and is now mom to our 2 kids. My wife is 2 years older than me. It has been a wonderful journey discovering life together so far, and sex has been a big part of that.
Your first worry: I could tell you that as long as you go slowly and enjoy yourself, it shouldn't hurt (apart from breaking your hymen), but you'd better ask a women about that one ;)
Secondly, confused I think indicates that it's a good idea to wait. I remember counseling a female friend who decided to have sex with her boyfriend at 17. He was a year older than her and they had been waiting a while. Afterwards, she was devastated; he left her for someone else and her heart was broken. I remember sitting with her at nights while she cried. She got over it and is now happily married, but she still regrets that night and losing her virginity is something she doesn't want to remember.
Thirdly, being in love is awesome, but why rush into sex? Sex does NOT equal love. Nor does love equal sex! It doesn't detract from the love you have if you're not having sex, despite what any friends/boys, etc tell you, believe me. If you decide to marry this guy one day, sex will be a wonderful present that you two can open together and enjoy for years to come, with no regrets at all!
My wife and I enjoy a freeing, fulfilling sex life without regrets. She's the only person who knows me like that and I'm the only one who knows her in that way. And that, to me, is wonderful! Sorry if I sound traditionalist, but old-fashioned romance is sexiest to me! Hope it helps :)
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Ive been feeling a little down lately and I just want to read a good book. One that I cant put down. I just finished my second year in college and its been extremly stressful and ive lost a few friends. So now that im done I just want a good pick me up or inspiring book. Have you read any? If you do recommend one to me can you tell me a bit about about the book in advance because I would like to buy it on my kindle and would like to make sure its a book that would interest me first before I spend the money. Haha. Thankyou ! (link)
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Dear Asker, I don't know your background, interests, hobbies, or anything else outside of your question, so forgive me if this is off-center. The most inspiring book I've read this year, and I read a lot, is called Crazy Love by Francis Chan. The kindle edition is about $3.75 so it really won't break the bank. Basically Francis is a cool guy, married with kids and he used to lead a church in California. While he was there, he began to notice things that didn't seem right to him about how people say one thing and do another. I won't get any pulitzer for my review, but that's the gist. Give it a whirl, I highly recommend it, especially for a thinking person.
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Ok so when i was born my real dad signed rights off on me and my dad adopted me. Now that my mom and dad are divorced i dont like how my dad is treating me. I would rather stay at my real dads house rather than my dads house. What should i do? My dad has actually hit me a few times. I dont want to hurt his feelings but i dont want to live where i am getting hurt. What do i do? I am only 13 so i dont know what i can do. Please help. (link)
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Dear Asker,
Firstly, there is always something you can do ;)
Secondly, I am one of four brothers and a twin myself. I grew up in a household with a very violent father. We would often get hit or threatened or have to witness things like my mom being hit. As someone who has experienced the kind of fear and intimidation that being abused brings, I really want to say that you can, and should do something about your situation.
It seems clear that you love your adoptive dad and that is cool, but it doesn't mean you are his punching bag, either physically or emotionally. As a father myself, I would NEVER hit my children with a hand or a fist. I'll spank them if they are naughty, but children are to be loved and discipline is meant to encourage and enforce your love for your children.
There is absolutely no excuse for him hitting you, especially at your age. I hope and pray I'll never have to spank my children after they turn 5!
So, what to do? Well, I can't really tell how bad things are from your question. BUT, doing nothing is the worst thing you can do! I would look on the net for some child helplines and call someone. There are load of people who will talk to you. Most helplines are free and they won't want your name or anything, they will just help you work it out and decide on a course of action sensibly. Covenant House is a great one: 1-800-786-2929, or Childline in the UK: 0800 1111.
DO get some help and I hope, hope things turn out well for you. *hugs*
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