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How do you feel about tipping?

I know this may piss some people off but I do not tip. I believe one pays for service when they dine out in the cost of their meal.

I am not looking to hear how ignorant I seem to be, I am looking for opinions.

Well A lot of people get pissed off because tipping is what feeds them at night and gets them around, and pays the bills(servers at least. A lot of people in the restaurant business that are either servers or hosts get paid way under minimum wage; I'm a hostess and i get paid $4.25.With those hours that we work we barely get enough...i'd say if i worked a good two weeks i can get like maybe 100...but tips give us most of our pay, i made 105 in about a weeks worth time recently from my tips and i only get %2.5 of the servers' tips. So it's really not that we are being money hungry, its just that we get paid the same lousy 4.25 and hour no matter how hard we bust our asses. I agree that if you got really bad service that no, they shouldn't be tipped...but if you actually have a good server that cares about serving you and making sure that you're happy, at least cut them some slack and give 15%, 20 if they really deserve it. I'm just hoping that i gave you the other side to things...It serves a purpose.

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I think this guy that works at Starbucks is just so gorgeous, and I want to talk to him when I see him again, and I'm just so shy when it comes to guys that I think are cute.
how can I get over this, and be more confident and not so shy?

I have had a lot of friends that have been in this situation and i have also been in this situation. The best way to get over a fear s to embrace it and face it. Don't let your shyness set you back in life, because he way be the one for you...you never know. Talking to a guy you really like can be super scary but once you get it over with you'll feel so much better. I say just go with it and throw away the shyness before its too late! Just remember to be you and if he doesn't like you that's his loss and it just wasn't meant to be...i mean that's the worst that can happen. GOOD LUCK :)

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I am a 49 year old woman. My question is concerning my mother and my 53 year old brother. My dad passed away 17 years ago. I was married at the time, my oldest brother, I will call him Fred, lived with my parents. Fred is an alcoholic and a chronic marijuana smoker. My mom interfered when my dad attempted to make a man out of him. She has always been immensely partial to her sons. My other brother is married with 5 kids. I think marrying at a young age and having a large family is what saved him from eternal childhood, unlike Fred. Recently, I have had to move in with my mom due to financial difficulties. Fred doesn't work at the time and does, virtually nothing all day. I work part time while waiting on a full time job. I help as much as I can financially and try to help around the house. My mother doesn't expect anything from Fred. She criticizes me often, cutting me down, her favorite thing to do is make me feel guilty about my divorce. She makes no attempt to hide that she can't wait until I get out of her house. She and Fred often talk in her bedroom, closing the door and talking quietly so no one can hear. I know they are not incestuous, but theirs is a very sick relationship. I feel when I have the financial means to get out of her house, I will not return here ever again, not even for a visit. My other brother, literally hates Fred. He feels Fred is mooching off our mother, I feel she asked for it. She has cloistered him and her in this little sick world since my dad died and she wants no one else in it. Hopefully soon, I will grant her her wish. Is it in my best interest to totally disengage myself from my mother when I move out?

I never thought someone your age would ever have a problem like that and i admit that that's crazy for me to assume, but i always thought that grown ups knew that even though their parents or anyone that has raised them may do crazy things but deep down they are your parents and they love you. I understand that its hard for you and you are feeling singled out and trust me i can relate as a 17 year old girl i always feel like I'm being treated unfairly but at the end of the day i see the bigger picture. It is a good idea to get out on your own though, you'll go crazy in that environment, but don't cut your mom off after all i'm sure you guys have been through. Times may get tough between you too, but truth is you wouldn't be who you are today if it wasn't for her. I say if you haven't talked to her about how you feel, try it out. If she doesn't understand at least you got if off your chest. But someone that close to you can't be replaced and you'll have a hole in your heart forever.

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