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okay well what happened was that i was sitting with this guy i'm dating, (let's call him.. orange) and all of that. then my friend, let's call her apple (bisexual girl who already has a girlfriend) wanted to tell me something. and she works with orange.. like.. way way before, orange told me that he could see himself liking these two girls.. but he doesn't. so that didn't really bother me. and then today, i just found out that at his work place.. he's been flirting with alot of girls and stuff. and that everyday he grabs this one girl's booty. and then apple was like "orange, stop you have a girlfriend" and he goes like "no, we're not dating yet." and then apple was like "well still, you're not supposed to do that even when you're about to go out with somebody" and like.. everyone that worked there got mad at him. and he's known as a pervert there. and i got soo mad today at school! i wanted to cry, but i didn't. now, i don't know what to do.. ever since 4th period, he's been following me around. and i've been ignoring him cause he KNOWS that i'm mad at him. for example, today after school he was following me.. and then i ran off with this one guy. and then he followed me in the orchestra room, then i left him again.
he doesn't flirt with girls at school, but when he works he does -_____-" even this one girl commented him and was like "idk why they hate you, just stop flirting with so many girls" and then he goes "can i still flirt with you?" and she goes like "Uhhh.. no, that'd be awkward" and then he goes "yeah, i'm about to go out with this one girl anyways.. i don't think she'll like it" and he still does it.
..&& no, apple doesn't like orange. apple is my best friend, and she told me this so i could make the right choice. and i've gone out with orange before, but broke up three years ago. but, this is something new.
what should i do?! help me please
I would believe your best friend Apple. It sounds like there are way too many witnesses that know how he is when he is not around you. Your buddy orange obviously has some "issues", he obviously is not ready for the kind of relationship you want out of him. I could tell you to sit and talk with him, but it sounds to me that he will be like "yea, I will change for you" and someone catch him up 5 minutes later messing with another girl. I assume this is highschool. Guys have natural ADD at this age, and he will just keep bobbin all over the place trying to get ANY girl's attention. I dont think he cares about you enough to preserve your feelings no matter what you say. I would just tell him, "look, I liked you, but I dont want want to be one of your hobbies on the side. Sorry, I dont want to be with you anymore because you just dont seem to care." Because even if you tried to work things out with him, do you really believe you can trust where he is and who he is flirting with, what if its more than flirting? I wouldnt want to put myself through all that minor drama when you got enough crap to worry about. Hope this helps.
PS Him following you around is not remorse that you are mad at him and feels bad, its because he wants another form of ATTENTION from you. Sounds to me like he is an attention whore.
How do I get a guy to like me enough to ask me out. In case you're wondering, I'm not like hot or anything, my chest isnt huge or anything I'm just normal and I like this guy he likes me back but not enough to ask me out .
You might not be the prettiest girl on the block, but you are still a girl. And no offense but he is a guy right. So what if you dont think you have the best features. He likes you right? Then the hard part is over, maybe he doesnt think you are GF material. You gotta be a lil more feminine to pull that off. You can look hot and still feel comfortable without looking trashy. I am sure you have no problems thinking of places to go and hang out, so find something mutual that you are both down to do. Whether you call it "hanging out" or a "date". It doesnt matter, when you guys meet up smell good, straiten or curl your hair, leave it down. Hair brushing against your face is always a slight turn on, plus it can be an execuse for the guy to move it away from your eyes with his hands if you guys are talking. Speaking of eyes, you dont have to over do it, but enhance them a bit so they pop out. Speaking of pop out you should have a push up bra, id you don, get one. Find a shirt that will show it off a little bit, make sure its not a shirt that shows off your bra. Get a long shirt, ones that are in style. So no tummy or booty cracks may show when bending or walking. (trust me, guys are more inticed with someone who doesnt look trashy, more like classy, and yet can leave things to the imagination) Get some hoops (they are versatile with any outfit) or studs if you prefer if you wear earrings. You want to draw some attention to your neck as well, by doing the earring thing. Something that is comfy and yet sexy is low-ride boot cut jeans, they work really good with ANY shirt, and it accents your butt. If you are uncomfortable with it, you dont have to but... black boots are more comfy and more classy than sandaled heels or flats. And when you walk your posture is better with heels and it accents your walk. If you you dont have boots, go with a sleek slip on flat. Not like the van ones, but the kind that make your feet look petite, and if you go with those flats, go with the skinny jeans to give you that punk class look. Phew.. ok.. Dont stress out, act natural. Even if you look different for a min, it doesnt mean you are different. You just look cuter being you, not that you arent already. Hope this helps. Let me know if it works out for you. :D
alright so heres the thing i had sex with my boyfriend aug 28th(condom broke) and 4 days after my missed period, i thought i got it although now im not sure if it was my period i mean it lasted four 4days it wasn't "light" but it wasn't "heavy either" and the first day was sept 14 i got it on to the 17 and now like this last week at school people said that " i was eating fast" like i didnt even notice it but it was happening all week and today i got acid reflex well i have never had that in my life so its just weird .. and my boobs are pretty sore .is it in my head? or could i really be pregnant? 16.f btw
I know first hand what it feels like to stress about whether or not I can get pregnant, and if so.. is that "one" time actually make it happen.. What if this and what if that? And when you believe in something it feels real. I was so "pregnant" plenty of times. You may also subconsciously want to be and perhaps havent really checked because you dont know how you would feel about the "reality" of the answer. If you are, you are nervous and kinda stoked, yet alot of pressured responsiblities bombard your thought. "How am I going to tell my boyfriend? My parents? My friends? Where do I start? What should I eat? Do I continue work/school? Do I make enough money? How am I going to pay for the delivery.. or even "Do I want to keep it? Can I raise a child? Will I be a fit mom? Should I give it up? etc.. On the other hand if you find out that you are not... then although you may feel relived from all the stress... then you think "What if i was? I could have been a mommy"
Anyways, the best thing to do is get yourself checked. Planned parenthood does it for free, or go to the 99cents store and by three pregnancy tests.. Three times is a charm. Once you know for sure, then you can take the next step.
PS. You can still have your period while you are pregnant. Yes, there can be many reasons on soreness of breasts, but it intensifies (to the point where it slight hurts when rubbed) when you are starting to produce milk. Eating faster and alot more with cravings during the first trimester is a huge sign, because that is when the baby is starting to develop into something substantial. If you are getting really tired, where you tend to take naps more often, then that means your body is working really hard to create a baby. Get checked and then you will know for sure. And if you are, feel free to contact me with anymore questions. I have a soft spot for pregnant women and baby related issues.