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Hi, me and my bf have been dating for 2 years but since the past six months he's been less than caring and a total fake. He's been really selfish too. During this time, I started feeling something for his best friend Dan. I somehow feel that Dan liked me but he obviously wont tell. And I can never tell him how i feel coz you know, he will never hurt his best friend. And recently one of my best frenz leaked it to his frenz about this so he might be knowing it. The main problem is that I'm leaving for university (2022 miles away from him) and more than anyone I'm hurt that i'm leaving him. I really want him to know this. But my bf (who doesnt know) told me that Dan's got back with his ex (could be a lie). I am obviously burning in jealousy. But I'm frustrated because I think I love him and his shiny brown eyes, and the way he looks at me gives me shivers and........OK Help!!! (link)
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I think going away to university will be the answer to your problems. You should def break up with ur current BF before you go though, and then you are basically starting a new life. I think the thought of Dan sounds much more appealing than it would be if you werent stuck in such an unhappy relationship. Once you make the break from your current BF and you move away, after a few months you will have met a whole new crowd and both guys will seem like a distant memory.
Good luck!
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I am a 41 year old man. I have been divorced for 5 yrs. I have been dating a woman on and off for the same five years. We had split it off about a yr and a half ago. I missed her very bad and had began seeing another woman. She started coming around my house and kept trying to get me back. Finally I gave in and blew it off with the other girl. We started seeing each other again and I ended up asking her to marry me last year in Feb.
I have a 16 yr old son who lives with me. He has been thru alot since the divorce. His mom not only walked out on me, but also the kids. My daughter is now 21 and on her own. My son is a big concern.
Last year I purchased a home about 30 miles away in the hometown of my fiance and she moved in with me. My son was upset about the move but in the year since, he has come to love our new town.
My fiance and came up with a financial agreement that She'd pay the mortgage of $1300/month and I'd pay the rest of the bills which total about $2000/month.
Here's the big issue. We used to have a pretty decent sex life except for the fact that she will not give oral sex. The rest of the relationship I thought was good enough that I thought I could probably look past it. I love oral, both giving and receiving.
Our relationship, though not perfect, is extremely good and we are best friends. Except, now she is not interested in sex at all and she's decided that we can have sex every other night. There is no flexibility in this with her. And when its MY NIGHT, then she says to hurry up and let her know when I'm ready. There is no foreplay, no arrousal. She doesn't even participate, at all. Now she don't even let me give her oral, though I'm good at it and she orgasm's every time.
She says I have the problem. It's to the point that I don't want to do anything at all or even be around her if it's not MY NIGHT. I long for passion and romance and she gives me none.
I've tried to talk to her but she refuses point blank to talk about it. I'm very unhappy and very unfulfilled in this relationship.
Two things worry me the most. My son, who has been through so much, is finally beginning to feel stable. If I dump her, then he's hurt again.
Secondly, I love my home very much, though, had we not made a plan, I wouldn't have bought it. It takes both incomes to manage the bills.
I really love her. Either I dump her or resign myself to an unfulfilled sex life.
Also, I've been cheating on her with a 29 yr old. (she's 45). The 29 year old is a freak in the sack and satisfies me immensly. I'm not making a decision based on my affair, but I can't take it anymore. I hate drama, and breaking up is big drama.
I see no more use. She just don't satisfy me. I don't like cheating and can and would be faithful to someone who put a small effort into pleasing me. I think a lazy lover who does not even try to please me is in way being unfaithful.
Is dumpsville the enevitable? Or am I being unreasonable and should change my thinking? (link)
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I think your son def should be a concern but in a couple of years he will be 18 and once kids reach that age they become less of a concern in terms of your importance of being a father.
As sex is a big deal to you, and you knew she didnt give oral sex, that should have been a deal breaker before you went and bought a place together, but anyway, it doesnt sound like what she is offering you in the bedroom is enough. And trust me, i know how it feels from both ends when either party is not really into having sex - if either one isnt in the mood then there is pretty much no point at all.
I think you need to come clean to your wife about the affair so she will perhaps realise that she is not satisfying you.
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