Member Since: August 27, 2013
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Last Update: August 27, 2013
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The situation is that, I have a best friend, who is in cliche kind of way, almost perfect. She's good at sports and maintains one of the best grades in school. She's also very nice.
It's because she's way too nice, it makes me very hard to resent her. I'm fine with being ignored but they kept calling me her lackey when I'm not; I try my best in keeping up expectations as the 'perfect''s friend but it gets so frustrating when I am giving it all but I still can't keep up with her and always being second best. I mean, she does everything with such little effort that I can't help felt that she's the genius and i'm the failed subject.
I've been coping with that for over 4 years but just half a year ago, she started dating with my crush whom she knew I like but thought I had got it over with. Being a socially awkward person, I kept my mouth shut and wished her the best because she did apologize when they started dating. But I really can't help but feel so jealous and irritated by her.
It got to the point where I wanted to scream at her and back-stab her so hard that it hurts. But I don't want to do that, we've been friends since middle school and I don't want to ruin that friendship for my petty emotions.
So the question is, how do I deal this? This pent up frustration and envy is so much that I swear I would explode anytime now. (link)
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Well, i think it s normal that you feel that way. Because she s dating a guy you liked and that s not right. Even if you were over it, she should have asked you first if you were okay with it. So, you have the right to feel mad. And about the rest. Don t be so hard on yourself. Nobody s perfect. We all have flaws. And i thinK if you relax a little, you ll feel better. Don t try to be perfect cause it s impossible and you ll just get frustrated and feel worse. Just try to find something that makes you feel good. That makes you feel home. Best of luck
Coop
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