Member Since: October 7, 2013
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I recently discovered that my wife isn’t in love with me anymore. She hasn’t left me, but it’s come pretty close. I know that after we had our child, that the spark hasn’t been there. Our focus has become our child and our careers. I also know that I have made some mistakes in our marriage. But I do believe that I am a good man, and a good husband. She doesn’t have high hopes that we can ever get back what we used to have, but I do believe we can get through this. I love my wife more than words can describe and I just want to win her heart back. Has anyone gone through this and succeeded? Can anyone give me advice on how to make her fall back in love with me? (link)
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I am in the same boat. My wife says she has strong sexual and lustful feelings for her friend but still loves me deep down and doesn't want to lose me! Makes sense.. yeh right!.. She says she wants her infatuation/feelings to stop with her friend and wants our marriage to work out and that we both have to make changes to ourselves in order for it to work. I am happy with that and also prepared to try everything to save our marriage. I adore and worship the ground she walks on. I'm not however going to pretend I'm perfect. No one is. We have had ups and downs, lately more downs than ups and we are both to blame for our rocky relationship. She has however insisted that she still maintains contact with this friend whom she has feelings for. They regularly talk, meet up, go out, go for meals together in restaurants even go to our home for "tea" when I'm not there and has even stayed over when I was on night shift.My wife tells me that the most they have done is cuddled and "felt each others hearts beating" ..which I thought sounded a bit mental. I have asked both my wife and "the friend" to stop contact with each other.. at least until my wifes feelings go away and we sort out our marriage. My wife thinks I am both wrong and unreasonable to ask this and will not cease contact with this friend and the friend just didn't acknowledge me. I am obviously hurt. Am I being unreasonable to ask my wife to cease contact with the friend she has feelings for or not? I am concerned that unless contact with the "friend" stops, there is no way we are going to be able to work our marriage out. I know she cant help feelings for someone else, but I feel a bit hurt and disrespected that she wont stop the contact. I'm not sleeping or eating, I have just left our home to try and give her a bit space as my emotions are so up a height and its making me cry a lot, gutted and confused. I have been reading various columns which suggests that she may have no intention of working on our marriage, and that she cant really love me if she has those feelings for someone else. She is not willing to cut contact with the "friend". Do I just trust my instinct and let go, or do I fight for her because I love her. I'm really mixed up and stuck. How can I make my wife fall in love with me again?
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