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ok so i have a friend that i think is a lesbian! i dont have any problems against lesbians but i feel wierd around her! im not sure she is a lesbian though but im preety sure she is! what should i do??

Has she actually made any indication that she likes you? If not then you should treat her the very same way that you would treat all you friends that are boys - the thing is, while she may POTENTIALLY like you, just because she's gay doesn't necessarily mean that she'll fancy every person of the same sex she comes into contact with...theres no reason to feel/act weird around her.

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So my friend got mad at me for telling another friend something. Something that she did to another person. When she confronted me, i apologized and owned up to it. She is still REALLY mad and wont talk to me? What do i do? She's scary..

If you mean that she confided in you and you told someone else about it, then you have broken her trust. It doesn't mean that she'll never talk to you again, but you will have to give her time to get over it and trust you again. Don't push her into talking to you, just take it slow.

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When I shave my underarms, I get bad red irritation bumps by the next day. Is there any suggestions as to how I can fix this problem? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

You should use some sort of shaving cream, although if you don't have any to hand its a great idea to use hair conditioner instead, it always leaves my skin clear and soft :)

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I was wondering on how not to not to feel pain then I saw heard about this guy that couldn't feel pain now I am having seconed thoughts is it wrong?

Both physically and emotionally,feeling pain reminds us that we are human, we are not indestructable. Can you imagine, if you did not feel pain, you would not know what it would be like to be insulted, to have your heart broken. But in not feeling pain, you lose the ability to feel happiness, as they are opposites. If you do not know pain, how are you supposed to know happiness, a compliment would be worthless, you would'nt know what it would feel like to be in love.
Physically, pain tells us when something is wrong with us, if you break a wrist but do not feel it break you run the risk of doing further damage to it.
Ergo, pain is good

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Okay well at youth group last Sunday I told my friend I had a boyfriend and showed her a pic. He was eating a paper plate in the pic and she went up to the pastor and said Alisons boyfriend eats paper plates, pastor said Alison I thought u were smarter than that and now I feel awful what should I do, please help me

It really seems like the pastor was just being sarcastic. Its nothing to worry about, a little comment like that does not mean that he is now annoyed or disappointed in you.
Just dismiss the comment and don't mention it again, it will all be forgotton about soon enough.
Try not to dwell on his comment, he didn't mean anything by it I'm sure.

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my friend told me that she's jealous because my eyes and eyebrows comes off "strong" and "defined" what does that mean?

It means they have a very strong shape rather than being hardly visible

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when im with my group with my good friends they wont able to tell that im sad, but when im with my new friend she knows when im actually sad or im just being quiet why is that? i just lie to her that im just tired when im sad since i dont like talking about my feelings but whenever im sad but tries to keep it to myself she seems to find it and asks me whats the matter, how can she able to tell? it makes me want to tell her whats wrong but i just cant trust people. She makes me want to put my guard down but im scared.

Some people are very good at reading others, and are able to tell how you are feeling by the little things that you do. Sometimes having a friend like this is a blessing, because its a rare gift to be able to read people like she can, which would make her very good at empathising with you if you ever chose to confide in her :3

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