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ah, im sorry, you really should have that written somewhere?
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Ive been going out with this boy named Eric for about 4-5 months now, and were always going on dates and everything and just this weekend [Saturday] I went over his house alone... well we've been kissing for a while but thats it I mean IM ONLY FOURTEEN and Eric put his hand up my shirt, and I donno if it's normal or not but I sorta freaked cuz its the first time anything besides kissing has happened to me.. and I was like Woah and he like continued so i was like oh umm im sorry but can you stop. So kinda mad I think he did, I let him"feel me up" on the outside of my shirt so he wouldn't get to mad, but then he tried un-buttoning my jeans and thats when I was like WOAH! What are you doing?? and he was like weve been going out for so long now why can't you go further then kissing me it's not like we'll have sex or anything.. and i donno I just didnt feel comfortable but I do like him. And I was like Im sorry.. and hes like You do like me dont you so I said yes! and he was like okay then. and Tried putting his hand up my shirt again then it was like No.. i dont feel comfortable ill just walk home and he got really mad at me. I tried telling him Crawling leads to walking, and Walking turns to running and I dont like running not yet atleast IM ONLY FOURTEEN!!! Well I feel violated right now, but then it's like would I have gone all the way if I let him? Would he have?? and I needed to talk to someone and my best friend Adam--yes it a boy was like WHAT and wanted to kill him but I made him promise not to. And this weekend oim going back over... and I dont want to go any farther then we did this weekend but I donno if Eric will accept that and I know if he doesnt break up with him but shouldnt I atleast do something? Like handjob? like satisfy him?? I dont want to.. but to make him happy I will... I donno what to do i really like him, and I dont know why I cant just let him do what he wants with me, but I cant... I know I cant.
and Im not a slut.. im only 14, I know ive dated him a long time but I thought he was happy with just kissing... now its like how long has he wanted this? Why didnt he tell me before? and Im just scared you know? Maybe I shouldnt go back to his house without a parnet and my and his parents are being super cool with letting me over because they do know! and I promissed my mom Id keep it PG-13...
Anything would be helpfull really. (link)
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Seriously? Don't let him use the trick of saying "you do love me dont you?" no, thats retarded, just tell him something like "Yes i love you, im not ready for that" you dont know..even thou you've been dating him for that long, if he really loves you, HE WILL WAIT! otherwise...he might just be using you; im sorry to say that; but im being honest. im sorry. i hope everything goes good. and dont let him do anything you dont want him to do. That's not right. he trys to take advantage of you; do anything possible to stop him. that's just not right if your not ready.
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Uhm, okay so there's this dude I like. We call him chikkin. Because I just love every kind of chicken there is, except burnt. But anyways, this is where the problem started. My friend had told him that I like him for reasons that I don't want to get into. So when she told him he smiled and said really. That's what she told me. She's not the type of person to lie, or she wouldn't have told me that she told him. That was last Thursday.
On Friday, he gave me a hug and said hey to me whenever I passed by. I don't get to see him much during the day because he's in 10th grade and I'm in 9th. Then when I got on the bus he completely ignored me! And to make it worse he was talking to this girl that was sitting in front of me the whole time. So, I tried to act like it wasn't affecting me. I think he did it on purpose... maybe he was trying to make me jealous or something, I don't know.
Then to make it even worse on that Sunday he changed his name to "A Woman has stolen my heart and Ma'Kayle is her name." That's not my name, I don't even think she goes to my school. So that night I decided to not like him anymore.
On Monday, I was on my way to third period, and he touched me when he walked by and I was guessing he still wanted to be friends. So, at the end of the day, I was heading to where the bus zone is (everyone gathers there at the end of the day). I saw my friend who told him talking to the dude. Then I saw them both turn and look at me. I walked over cautiously and he gave me a hug and said hey. I looked at her for an explanation and she said, "I'll leave you two alone to talk."
We didn't really have a conversation. He seemed kind of nervous. He was starting to walk away so I turned back to the girl. And she was so excited, it was funny.
On Tuesday he gave me a hug also. Today, I got on the morning bus. I was talking to one of my close guy friends and then the dude got on the bus. He saw me and him talking and he said hey to my friend and he touched my arm. He sat with the girl across from me, and another girl sat with me.
The girl that was sitting with me was trying to talk to the girl that was sitting with him. He said,"Switch seats with me." to the girl I was sitting with. She didn't want to at first and it seemed like he was pleading with her lol. However, she finally switched with him and he was sitting with me. I continued talking to my friend though. Finally some other dude asked my friend if we were flirting. That's when the dude sitting with me looked. We both shook our heads. It reminded me of that time when he ignored me on the bus. So, I guess it was kind of revenge like. When I saw him in the hall though he smiled at me and said hey.
Sorry it was so long. I'm really confused. If anyone who actually took the time to read this would give me some advice, it would be really appreciated :D. (link)
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I feel so bad for you....but to the advice
Really you should tell him, DIRECTLY; by yourself; when he's alone. How you feel, and ask him how you feel, have a level conversation with him.
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