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(I am seventeen, girl, gonna be senior.. He is nineteen, boy, just graduated). So me and my ex have been broken up for about nine ish months? We dated for eight and had a reeeeally messy break up. While we were dating he, yes, had me pretty whipped. It's something I'm really not proud of. But he took advantage of that in a lot of ways and really hurt me... To sum it up he pressured/guilted me into physcial stuff, dumped me in a text, and told me he only stayed with me for so long cause he liked hooking up and he never actually liked me. Yet yeah, he had me whipped cause he reallly had me fooled that he loved me. He would actually force me to look him in the eye while he said he loved me... Didn't really think someone could lie to my face like that but ugh that's another story. Point is, I found out after we broke up that'd he'd talk a bunch of shit to his friends/baseball team. Just really disrespectful stuff you shouldn't be saying about your girlfriend. Anyway. Even though we’ve been broken up he will still mess with me. I’m pretty sure he gets enjoyment out of it. He'll just rip on me cause he knows I used to take it and he thinks I still will. Which okay... truth time: I'm not a very assertive person, he knows that, I don't know I'm just... a doormat. Or I used to be. For example, last week:
Him: Put some clothes on you look like a whore.
Me: You’re a dick.
Him: You love my dick.
Me: (quietly) Stop.
Him: Make me.
Me: Come on.
Him: You know what?
Him: I think I still have you whipped. I’m pretty sure I could get you do anything.
Me: You’re an idiot.
Him: If I dropped my pants right now would you suck me off?
Me: (attempted to push him away, he stopped me)
Him: I’m not gonna lie sweetie, you’re a tiny little thing. That’s probably not a good idea.
Me: Just let me go.
Him: I can’t take you seriously. You’re just so cute when you’re mad.
This is where he tries to pinch my cheek and I smack his hand away but he grabbed my wrist and pulled me up to him.
Me: Let go.
Him: (Laughing)
Me: Seriously, stop.
Him: Okay, okay. But remember, as much as you deny it you know you’re still mine.
UHM CREEPY?? Like I don’t even know what that means and I’m just so pissed off at him right now, like I honestly don’t even know what to do!! He’s basically dating this other girl so what the heck does he think he’s doing…? I want to talk to him but every time we talk he just has this way where as you can see from above, I can never find it in me to just REALLY tell him off. Sometimes I think he’s right. He gives me all this shit and I can never just yell at him. And it really takes a toll on me… The thing is, I don’t want to get anyone else involved (like my boyfriend) because I feel like I’m never gonna solve this problem until I can handle him myself. I need to do this for me. That last line has been in my head 24/7 for the past few days because I think he’s right. I need to tell him to piss off but but I’m scared I’m not gonna have the guts. Please help me… Tips, things to say? Anything. (link)
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Ohhh no no no sweetheart. You NEED to stop this. This guy sounds like a complete moran with a huge ego problem. If you're too scared to 'tell him off' then just say simple little this to make him insecure.For example:
Him: If I dropped my pants right now would you suck me off?
You: *Smiles* Sorry I don't put dirty used LITTLE toys in my mouth.
He may act like it was a stupid remark but he'll always be insecure that his penis is small.
And if he brings up the whole 'I have you whipped thing' again just tell him you faked it. You faked every moan, you faked every smile, you faked every 'I love you' and he never ment jack to you. So if anyone is whipped it's him because he keeps coming back for more of 'you'. Stand up for yourself sweetie. Don't let an idiot walk all over you like that. Just make little remarks that you know will cut him the deepest. Goodluck (:
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My ex and I have been on and off for the past 5 years. He lives in a different lifestyle than me, his parents are insanely strict and he's always locked at home/have to abide to their rules. He didn't have a brain for himself so that's why I would get so frustrated...he would always do what people tell him to do and I feel like it's his parent's fault not giving him freedom.
Anyways, I miss him so bad. I used to have fears of being with one person but wanting to be with other guys...like I didn't wanna be tied down so early (I'm 18 btw). These past 2 years, I dated random guys and it all failed. Every guy was an idiot, pervert etc. All I wanted was my ex in the end.
What makes me angry is that...our timing is always off. I notice that every single summer, he disappears from my life on purpose. He's hanging out with friends etc , like having the life while I miss him. When school starts, he falls on his knees and begs for me back. it's happened since 10th grade to 12th. We are both going to the SAME college this fall and right now he's not talking to me. I can't stand it. I want to cry so bad cause he doesn't give a shit about me in the summer.
I think he truly loves me, and I feel like college will give him the freedom he needs to be a good boyfriend. He would always leave me when he got upseet, which I want to teach him that relationships have their ups and downs.
I know I'm young, but I want to be with him ...forever. He's just one of those guys that you know there is something real. WE jusst had a lot of issues with his parents, his strict life...What should I do to convince my ex to let's stop this fighting/awkward/painful ignoring stuff and be together? We went out freshman year for a year...single sophomore and junior year (though we still went on dates and kissed...) and senior year, we dated for half a year.
We broke up multiple times cause there were points he was suicidal and didn't give a shit about his life and especially me. That really crushed my self esteem............
My ex is a good guy, he just has his emotional flaws. I love him, and I want to be with him. What should I do? (link)
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Well, obviously he's your first love right? It seems like you guys have a lot of ups and downs which in a relationship there is going to be a lot of those. The question is, are you willing to fight for eachother? You say you two have been on and off because of his parents, summer, his 'emotions', ect. But it seems to me that if you two really wanted to be together you would make sure it happened no matter what even if there was a few bumps along the way. That's the whole point of a relationship right? Being with the person you love and doing anything to make eachother happy. But if you tow constantly make up and break up maybe it's just not ment to be. You said he always forgets about you during the summer and crawls back during the school year? Well, that's pretty obvious that he want to be able to do his thing with his guys with out being tied down to a girl over the summer. Which is very wrong. BUT he's going to do it anyways. I think you should tell him how you feel and if he makes up excuses or just keeps pushing about his 'issues' and what not you know where you stand with him and it's time to move on. If he feels the same way and wants to be with you to then you need to let him know that he cannot keep toying with your emotions, he's either with you or not. He can't keep coming in and out of your life as he pleases, he's either in or out. Some people are ment to fall in love but not ment to be together. But don't cry about it, smile because it happened.
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