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Hey yall..! I'm becky but everyone calls me beckster :) I'm 14 and cant wait to get to high school! aah! I decided to make an advice column because.. haha i liek giving advice? lol hopefully i can help you with any problem you have because i pretty much get down to the point and lay my opinion flat out.. haha have funn. advice
hey beck-
okay well i have a problem. i think i like this guy because he is sooo cute and nice and funny when im alone with him, but when we are around other people, he is completey obnoxious and rude to me. Even his guy friends notice it and try to stick up for me. I dont want to like him but my feelings toward him keep growing. IDK i am just sad because of how he makes me feel sometimes.
Thanks for helping!
Confused.
alright.. well this is a tuffy. suck it up and keep going. lifes not always easy with guys so i think you should get over it.. plus its summer so yeah your never gonna see him.
--nat
this is why i dont have an advice colomn :)
ok so there's this guy who i really really really like but all my friends keep telling me that they hate him and he's not right for me and that they think i should break up with him and he's just going out with me because he wants to make out with me, we've been going out for a month and we havnt even gone that far. But i've expressed my feelings to my friends about how much it bothers me that they keep telling me all this but the fact is im kind of starting to believe parts of it...help!!
-lost
Well, you know what people always say, to make sure your best friends liek the guy your dating. I know you liek him a lot, but try to understand WHY your friends dont like him, and then ask your boyfriend what he does to make them not like him, and tell him not to do that. But in my opinion, it matters what you want, nad what you think. if you want to be with him, then stay with him if hes good to YOU, thats all that matters, but talk to him about the way he treats your friends, and ask your friends why hes so bad. If your starting to believe it, then be sure you get your facts straight on what exactly is happening. hope i helped.
xo-Beck
do you have any advice on how to straighten hair..other than straighteners? thanx
well, i use a straightener every day lol but im seriously gonna try to stop because its so damaging! what i suggest is to ask your hair dresser to give protected gloss drops or shine serum to flatten the frizz and make your hair straight. or just go to the drug store and get some garnier fructice or john frieda straightening spray or gell that you can ruin through your hair. its not as effective as a straightener, but it helps! haha and if your hair is REALLY curly and frizzy, you could get it chemically straightened, but thats a lot of money and REALLY damaging. what i do lately, is put protective spray on my hair before i straighten it, and it helps! also, rinse out your conditioner with COLD water, instead of hot.. haha hope i helped!
xo, Beckster
hey becky..its amber Q. again...remember me? i wrote you about having sex with my boyfriend..well you helped me decide that i didnt want to have sex with him..but i told myself i owed him more than jsut fingering. So one night we were at my house alone and he had his boxers on and i just had my bra on.
He had just fingerd me..but he wanted more nad i was caught up in the moment. I pulled his boxers dowwn to his knees & gave him a ametuer blow job. He pulled me onto his lap and took off my bra..this worried me because his erected penis was right on my vagina..he started groaing (!) and tried to move me around..thats when i realized...he was trying to go all the waY!! i got so scared becky and all i could do was get up and run into the bathroom. He got soo mad at me when i came out he jumped ontop of me and kinda slaped my face..not really hhard though...then he...it hurts to say...he tried to rape me but i got free..kicked his nacked penis area.. and grabed my clothes and ran into the bathroom got dressed and crawled out the window...becky you cannot tell anyone i havent. but iam soo scared ..well i told my friend riana and she didnt believe me..she laughed ...i am so scared and i have had to sleep on my porch when my parents dont come home...becky this may be too big of a problem for you but you are my last option..i want to commit suicide i hate him so much...please please help...
Amber Q.
suicide is the last thing you want to do. i think this is a joke but whatever.. tell somebody if he tried to rape you and if he hit you. and stay away from him!
hey becky..
this is one of your close friends but i never want to tell you who i am until im ready to...a few weeks ago i took a quiz and i think im lesbian...and i can kinda see how that is true..i always have dreams about my have a threesome with all girls and i always picture me makingo ut wtih my closest friends...but if i tell anyone hwo i am or even what my name is im afraid ill loose them as friends...and i dont want that but i dont want to keep pretending that i like guys when i think theyre disgusting and want to find a nice girl that i can have fun with...please help an dim srry if this grosses you out....
sincerely,
becoming a dike
im not really sure what to say.. i have neevr been in that situation,and i dont know if this is a joke or what but like.. as long as you dont have a crush on your girl friends then i dunno.. theyll be a little bit shocked and scared, and may stay away from you for awhile but eventually theyll be understanding..
sorry i couldnt help.
Beck
omg becky you are awesome! you always know what to say when someone is down and you always have a smile on your face! keep up the good work! lyl
aw thanks! im sure whoever this is, your great too! love ya, Beckster
okay well i have this boyfriend that ive been going out w/for almost 2 years now.. but all he ever wants to do is talk and hang out.. like we havent ever even made out yet..=/ so i guess i got kinda bored of him.. so lately me and this other guy have been making out a lot and fooling around and its really fun.. but i know with him all i'll ever get is kinda a fwb(friends with benefits) kind of relationship.. but then with my b/f our relationship is just boring..please help im not sure what i need to do!
okay well first of all.. dont cheat on your boyfriend.. that will create m uch bigger problems. decided what you like better.. a verbal relationship or a physical relationship. if you liek them both the same.. then focus on looking for a guy with both qualities. first what i would do if i were you is talk to your boyfriend.. yall have been together for 2 years so your obviously comfortable with him, so tell him you want to l ike be more serious and like make out or whatever. or else just go in and make out with him.. i doubt he will protest against it, and if he does.. hes not worth it :).
why are u a virgin?? come on
uhhh because a) i havent found the right person b) im only 14 and c) a part of me doesnt believe in sex before marriage..
okay hi ...becky..you dont know me..my name is Amber Quilsh and i live in california...but i came across your ask and i felt like i could totaly connect withyou you sound down to eart and sweet and not one of those girls who just cares a bout money nad clothes and all that you know like the perfect little blondy who pleases boys and is a slut! (can you tell i have some anger?) lol sorry...but okay i dont have a great home life but i have this boyfriend that i spend the night with when my dad wont let me in or my moms out drinking its not that bad i get to spend more time with him..and he is great but lately he told me that he wanted to have sex. i said no but that night as we were making out i let him go further than i normally do...first my top was off then my bra then my pants and i let him undress me and finger me but that was it. Well he liked it and he said if we dont have sex he'll break up with me...i know it sounds bad but im horny for him too...i just dont know if it shud go al the way you know im only 14...but i love him and cant lose my best friend & boyfriend....please please help me.....Amber Q....
Okay well.. i havent even come clothes to having sex, but im gonna do the best i can using my prior knowledge of this kind of situation. :)
Well, you and your boyfriend definitely seem like you have a connection, and its great that he's there for you when your home life isnt the best. If he really cared for you, he wouldnt be in the relationship just because of sex, so you should talk to him about what he meant when he said "ill break up with you if you dont have sex with me." try asking yourself if there is anymore in the relationship than just a physical connection.
On to the next subject, if you want to have sex with him, and you feel that you two share that same thing, and if you feel that you love him, then have sex with him. but remember.. you are only 14 so use protection. If it were me, i would use abstinence lol but thats just me. If you feel pressured to have sex, and you feel uncomfortable in that situation, then dont do it.To me, you seem like you don't want to do it with your boyfriend, so maybe you two should wait a little while, and talk things through..
i hope i helped.. this is tough but i did the best i can! thanks amber!
hey umm yea becky this is pter griffin and i was wondering how do you get rocks out of your pool? beasuse like 5 guys threw rocks in my pool one night and i was like really amd at them and i had to get them out myself by swimming in there. it sucked.
sincerely peter grifiin(not jorge)
haha well JORGE (cough i mean peter..?) they shouldnt have thrown them in there in the first place! haha you rock my world jorge.. god love ya
hye beck dont listen to those poeple who are mean to might be helpful(although also bitchy..) then why dont you try it.. just here to help :D
hold on.. i dont understand what you siad because of the way its worded.. lol but i think its something good, so thanks! :)
who ever is saying bad stuff about you is stupid and dont listen to them because you are beautiful and awesome and i think you are a really good person and dont listen to what other people think cause the only thing that matters is what you think of yourself.
love,
Your baby girl
=) thanks!
woww high school really is NOT thhat freakin great...take it from someone whos already there..
so um u have fun wiht that
lol uh oh.. well i hope its at least better than middle school
beck dont let bitches get to you.. =) ur so awesome.. keep makin people smile
whoever this is.. thanks so much :) glad to maek you smile haha
ok...my friend and i were sooo close! we used to be like sisters. but then she got a bf, and hes all she cares about! he doesnt even like her, but shes still all over him. now she never talks to me or calls me or hangs out with me. to be truthful, her bf is an asshole, and she thinks hes a god! she always dicthes me for him, and i'm getting really sick of it. i tell her whats going on in my mind, and she just says she'll spend more time with me, but she never actually does! i talk to her about it ALL the time. what should i do??? i've had to deal with this since september....thx! lyl
^^sound familar??? well ok, i posted this a while ago, and i've become very outspoken with my friend. i listened to your advice and convinced her about how much of an ass he was. were soo close now. she dumped her bf for a new guy who ACTUALLY cares about her, and everythings cool! omgosh, i cant tell you how much you've helped me! thanks! lyl
aww omg you dont know how happy i am to hear that!! im so glad that my advice worked, and happy that everything is great between you and your friend!! love you!
-Beckster
ok, well heres the deal. me and this guy are sooooooo compatible! we went out b4, but then he started to like another girl, so he ended it. but she moved to oklahoma. (yessss!)we talk on the phone all the time and were really good friends now. so should i tell him how i feel, or wait for him to ask me out again???? thanks so much! =D
aw haha she moved away.. yaay lol thats exactly something i would say.. well first make sure that he likes you so give him hints that you like him, and then after you try that just be like "remember that time we went out..? that was so great" and see if he agrees. and if he does agree then just be like "i thought we were so good together and im starting to like you again." i hope that worksd! its what iw ould do! haha love ya :)
damn you really need to stop fuckin copying people....mckenzie and chelsea have this...atleast they give good advice!!!!
If you dont post this your really gay....!
umm if your so bothered by my advice column.. then why are you on here? honestly.. people like you have no life and are so retarted and if you dont like my advice then seriously.. like your making yourself look like a dumbass..
ok im in the 8th gradeand i really like this guy(hes in the 8th grade too) and he totally flirts with me and i flirt back he has even told me he likes me and wants to go out were like bestfriends we talk on the phone every night about everything and all of our friends tell us we would be perfict together.... ok heres the big problem he is going out with a ninth grader whose gorgeous(she looks like shes 19!) he tells me everything about her and what they do and it makes me so jealous he says he can get enough of her i really do love him it makes me not interested in any other guys i think im depreased because of it
doesnt it totally suck to want guys we cant have? okay, so heres my advice: next time he tells you stuff that like he likes you and wants to go out w/ith you, be like "well what about your girlfriend and all the great things you say about her?" or "umm you seem to like your girlfriend so much, are you sure she would like to hear you talking about this.." to me that just doesnt make sense at all.. he says he likes you, but then he brags on his other girlfriend.. hmm well maybe you should hang out with a bunch of other guys and start looking really cute and show him what hes missing. :) what kind of guy dates older girls anyways? haha hope i helped.. :)
hey! congrats on making cheer i know you wud do good!
thank you so much! im really excited and cant wait till next year! :)
ok...my friend and i were sooo close! we used to be like sisters. but then she got a bf, and hes all she cares about! he doesnt even like her, but shes still all over him. now she never talks to me or calls me or hangs out with me. to be truthful, her bf is an asshole, and she thinks hes a god! she always dicthes me for him, and i'm getting really sick of it. i tell her whats going on in my mind, and she just says she'll spend more time with me, but she never actually does! i talk to her about it ALL the time. what should i do??? i've had to deal with this since september....thx! lyl
hmm.. well if it were me i'd be straight up with her, and point out to her what an idiot her boyfriend is and all the loser things he does. Tell her that you too have been friends longer, and she deserves someone who will treat her and other people better. In the mean time, start hanging out more with some other friends, and i guarantee you that she'll come around and miss all the fun time she used to spend with you. everything will work out, i promise :)