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hi,i really want to knw how to get myself die fast cos i dont want to live anymore.i m married 3yrs ago n i have 10 mnts angle daughter and also we have planned for another which is due for nov-13.i am 30 yrs of age n got maried to 23 yrs.and its a love marriage.now the problem is her family they interfence alot in our things cos my wife(sahiba)keeps on telling everything to her mom each n everyday.now we always got a fight because of their calls.we r a family of 3 me my mom and sahiba.she always creates a scene with baseless reasons.and her family supports her even 2 in the night if she creates any fight her family knows n they call me and started threatning that they will call a police.and one day she (sahiba)called a police to arrest me n my mom.but immideatly her family n my family came to the spot and handle the situation n forced police to go as this is our family matter we will sout out ourself.what happened NOTHING after 10 days sahiba again stared messing in the home.with pity matters,she always started threatning me that i will teach u a lesson in a minute.THIS IS WRONG AND NOT AT ALL ACCEPTABLE.a wife threatning her husband.this is tooooo much,u knw its a bad law in INDIA they support girls even though they r wrong.i have given her everything more than my capability,but still she is not satisfied.i dont knw what to say but m tooo much depressed.now the new story is she keeps on telling her family that i hit her.how can i hit as i made a love marriage n loved her more than my life even she does.she is claming because one day she injured my mom by scratching all her hands from shoulder till hands.than we called her parents about her behaviour still they supported her by telling she have not done intentionally.Just right after that she started telling her family i hit her.pls tell me the way to get away from this HELL. (link)
First, breathe. Take a moment, and just breathe.

Do not try and kill yourself. That is not the answer. If you kill yourself, where will your kids be? Left to deal with that woman alone, without their father?

Have you thought about marital counseling? It sounds like your wife has some issues she needs to sort out. There are of course two sides to every story, which I realize. Like I said, I think counseling is a really good idea.

It will help the two of you not only sort out your individual issues, but the issues you've created together and hopefully find ways to resolve them and move forward with your lives together, happily.

If you're convinced that counseling isn't something that will resolve your problems, perhaps divorce is your next best option. (Which I don't believe.) If you love each other, you can make it work. You can pull through this hard time, I believe that.

My husband and I went to two different marriage conferences where we learned how to better communicate with each other without yelling or accusing in any way, as well as how to talk to each other, NOT our family members about our personal issues.

It really opened up our eyes to how we were and what we needed to work on for ourselves, and for our daughter. It changed us both. So did finding God. Praying to God to repair our relationship and putting our Faith in His good works.

Good luck to you and your family, and may God bless you all.




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