Member Since: September 29, 2010
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16/f
My parents will NOT listen to anything I say. They told me my curfew is at 8, right, and I told them that I needed it to be at 9 or 10 because of stuff I want to do and they totally IGNORED me! Then I told them I wanted to go to the beach this summer with my friend and her bf because they're old enough and her parents let her but my parents were like, "No, you'll get into trouble!" and this crap about how a 16 year old girl shouldn't be away from her parents like that. I told them it would make me HAPPY to go to the beach w/them and they were like we'll they would schedule a time to go to the beach as a family and that is NOT what I said! This is stupid because I'm almost grown up and they should let me do what I want to do and be an adult like that. I mean this is just stupid. Everything I tell them I want to do they pull some crap like if there's a party then they want to know the SPECIFIC names of adults that are going to be there and they want to know if drinking is involved and I tell them I can handle myself and that I'm a woman already and they just won't listen. How can I make my parents listen to me and do what I want them to do? (link)
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I agree with a lot of what the other poster said. You may be 16, and be gaining experience and a sense of responsibility, but you're still at a very easily targeted age, statistically.
My parents are somewhat over protective, but have loosened up a little now that I've been away at college and haven't failed/gotten attacked/become pregnant, haha.
Try to remember to look at it from their perspective, they just don't want anything bad happening to you.
However, to deal with the curfew issue, I highly recommend putting your reasoning and debating skills to good use. Just telling them "I have stuff I want to do" is likely to be met with impassiveness.
Explain to them which friends you'd like to be hanging out with past curfew, what you'll be doing. Pull out examples of how responsible you've been in the past when left alone. Maybe try to bargain, suggest that you could pick up a few more chores if they let you stay out late a certain number of days a week.
Some parents don't respond well to bargaining, I don't know what yours are like. And don't press the issue too hard too often, or it might just lead to difficulties.
Good luck. And if they don't extend your curfew, just take it as a challenge to have a lot more fun in the short time you have after school (safely. ^_^; )
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for the past 2 1/2 weeks, i've been a total mess. especially at school, any little thing will set me off. i'll get really pissed off, yell at people, and today i hit my friend in the face and he cut his lip. i'm walking around just hating everything and everyone, wishing everything would just go away. i'd been eating a lot more than usual, but then today i wasn't hungry at all. not only am i mad, i'm sad. someone will say or do something that'll make me sad. i've been crying uncontrollably a lot. today during one class, i had to sniff back tears at least 5 times. i have no idea whats going on with me. nothing is wrong at my house. my grades are starting to suffer because of it. its like i'm either depressed or angry all the time. i'm mean to everyone and driving away all my friends and my boyfriend. but at the time when i'm pissing off someone, i'm trying to. i want them to leave. but then later i'll feel bad and hate myself.
i've been depressed before, but this is different. its a lot worse. i'm also thinking about suicide or running away. but, again, i have no idea where these moods or thoughts came from. nothing is wrong, but everything is wrong. can someone help? (link)
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This sounds entirely like chemical depression. I'd recommend visiting a psychiatrist and, if they think it's best, trying some medication.
I understand if you're opposed to visiting therapists or taking medication (I used to distrust both. Figured I'd deal with my issues on my own.) But in the case of chemical depression (if that's indeed what you have), prescription medication really is the best way to balance the serotonin (and other chemicals) in your brain.
I mean, it could be some other hormonal unbalance, but either way, I highly recommend seeking professional help. It's good that you're aware that despite nothing being wrong externally, there's still a problem that needs addressing.
Also, if you don't like the psychiatrist or medication type, try another one. There's bound to be a psychiatrist somewhere in your area you can stand, and different medications work better for different people.
It might take a little time, but don't give up. And hey, it might just be a phase that'll pass anyway. But it's still good to seek professional council just in case.
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