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This column is meant for basically any problem you may have on Love, Relationships, problems with family members, school, work, etc. If you ask any questions on rape, suicide, or any other serious situatioins, all i'm going to do is advise that you seek professional help from counsler or doctor, and give you my personal viewpoint. Hope any advice I have given helps ya'll. =) Hope you like my advice column!!!!! *XoXo*

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Sorry... this is a sex question and there are somewhat graphic content. Not really bad but if you're young, you might not want to read this. Please only OLDER columnists answer this. I don't want advice from an inexperienced 13-14 year old. Someone who knows what I'm going through would help. And so... here's my question....



Hey, I'm 14/f and my boyfriend is 16. Yesterday I was at his house and we were doing sexual things and then I told him to go get a condom. (he uses them normally for self pleasure so it doesn't get anywhere...) So he went upstairs and got it but when he came back down I was crying. I don't know why I was crying. I really feel like I'm ready to have sex with him. We've been together for 2 years and we love eachother very much. It's weird though, I know that I'm physically and emotionally ready to do it it's just that, whenever we are about to, I get scared. Is this normal? Can anyone help me out?

PS- I'm a virgin and so is my boyfriend and we both want to lose our virginity to eachother.

Oh goodness....I was in your exact postion about two years ago. I was 14 and my boyfriend was 16 and I knew I was ready but I was scared. He said to me one night after I had changed my mind about it like fifty thousand times, "I think you're ready, but you're just scared." Then it hit me. He was completely right. Virginity is a very special thing, and it's only normal to cry...Afterwards, I cried a little bit, because it was a very emotional experience. We were both virgins and we had been together for over a year. Before that we had talked about it and talked about it for months. I don't regret it and I know I felt exactly the same way you did.

If you're going to do it, i'm proud that you told him to get a condom, protection is very important. If you want to reassure yourself, this is with a person you've been committed to for two years, you love him, he loves you. You've held on to your virginity your whole life, so yes it's going to be very hard to give it up and very emotional. Just do something to calm yourself down before...coz trust me, everything will be fine. =) It's a truly amazing experience.

But, if you think hard and decide you still aren't ready to go for something like this, don't. Because even if you feel ready, you may not be...even though I was in my case. So do some reflecting of your feelings, and maybe you'll find the answer. Hope I helped any! =)

ps- talking to your partner always makes you feel better about it too =)

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Well my boyfriend was here today and we were makeing out and he got my shirt off and then i told him to stop but i love him so much and we could of had sex but i told him to go home and he knows what makes me feel better and stuff like that well he was kissing my neck (which i like ALOT) and then he took my shirt off. I then told him to go home and but i think i am ready (well at least i think so) What do you think is wrong?

Only you know if you are ready to have sex. You could be ready, but afraid to do it. If you are a virgin, then virginity is not something you wanna give up that easily. Wait for when you are 100% ready to do so and you're with someone you love and care about deeply. Take your time, think about it, and decide if you really are ready for this. If he tries to push you into anything, then he may not be the right guy to give it too. Tell him how you feel when you guys aren't gettin hot and heavy, so maybe he won't let his hormones take control, and he'll be serious and take into consideration of how you feel. Hope I helped any! =)

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me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months and i was at his house the other day and we were getting kind of sexual... we didn't have sex or anything but we were like "dry humping" and my underwear shifted and his penis went in... it wasn't for like that long because as soon as we both felt it we like jumped apart from eachother. he said that he didn't cum but there is still the whole issue of pre cum and he might have a little bit... he didn't go in deep though it was like hardly an inch. is there a chance that he could have cummed a little bit and i could get pregnant? or does he have to go in deeper?

It's a very small small chance that you are, but there is always a small percentage that you could be because of the pre cum. Maybe next time you should wear a layer more of clothing, because the less you have on the higher the risk of you becoming pregnant if you guys aren't careful. Hope this helps! =)

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