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what's there to know? i'm a sixteen year old girl from raytown mo.. i have long black hair.. and brown eyes.. i'm 5'10 and a half.. and i love ♥ music ♥.. feel free to ask me anything.. i'm a pretty knowledgeable person.. i know a lot about many things.. haha.. okay.

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ok, i am 18 and a virgin. I am going to have sex for hte first time within the next month. My fiance and i are very dedicated to each other. But my freind told me i should get a PAP smear done before I have sex. My mom said i dont have to do it before my first time but i should do it soon. i dont want to go and get oen before we have sex b/c i want him to be the first one down there and everythign else. But what i am wondering is if they go to do it, and my cherry is still in tact...will they pop it? B/c i really want my fiance to do it...not some doctor. If anyoen could enlighten me on Pap smears and when i should get one nad if htye will pop my cherry if it is still intact, i would be grateful. I will rate every answer i get!

Wow, that first answer is going to be hard to beat.

I know that when I went in for a Papy, they told me I didn't need one, because I wasn't 18 yet, nor had I had sex.

They say you should usually go and get a Pap test whenever you start having sex, or are thinking about it. (or in some cases, when you turn 18.

(this isn't coming personally,or from experiance, and I'm sorry that it hasn't. But I was affraid when I went in, and I asked all types of questions.)

While getting a pap smear doesn't hurt, it can be very uncomfertable. Especially with the 'duck bell'. The vagina is actually stretched more than when having sex. Causing a little discomfert.

If I were you, I'd get it done afterwords. That way, your fiance can be the 'special one'.

-Sorry if it doesn't help.
Good luck hon.
-Hailie

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Okay so the other night me and my boyfriend snuck out to meet at the park. We had sex but my quetsion is can I get pregnant from this... The first time we did it we used a condom and he came. Then the second time he came again in a new condom. The Thrid time he didnt come but he didnt use a condom. Is there enough sperm cells on his penis left from when he came in the other condoms enough to get me pregnant?? Im not sure.

Please be honest and I dont care tell me how stupid I am too for askin this.
Bye

Well,

You aren't stupid hon. I'd be worried as well.

I would think it would be very possible. Just wait it out, and if you miss your next period, then get a pregnancy test.
Be informed, that P.T's aren't 100% accurate.

Good Luck to you. And God Bless.
-Hope it helps
--Hailie

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okay, so this guy i am "together with" which means we are pretty much going out without the label. anyway, he says he likes me alot, but doesnt think we would be able to have a relationship because he doesnt think i would want him to finger me, or i wont give him head. and the truth is, i just think it would be akward.. but ive gone out with him before.. and i really want a relationship with him.. he doesnt want to have sex with me.. just do everything else. but ive never given anyone head, and ive never been fingered.. im 14.. and i didnt think i should be doing that stuff.. what should i do?

Well,
Let me say this.. just because everyone else is doing it, doesn't mean you have to.

Following the crowd, doesn't help. Nobody is going to think more of you if they know you've done sexual oriented mumbo jumbo.

Expecially at 14. I'm a sixteen year old.. And I've never done anything of the sort. I'm holding off, which should turn out for the better.
If he really enjoys being with you, he won't pressure you into do anything of the sort. If you have worries about this, go to him. Talk to him about it. Make sure that that isn't all he wants you for.

Don't rush to grow up. Enjoy what you can, while you can.

God bless.
-Hailie

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