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Q: What are good ways to mastrabate female!!!

Best way is to buy a water proof viborator, and use it in the shower or bath.
Jelly viborators are the best.
Or always your fingers.

Q: This is difficult to admit. Usually on when posting this on a different website. I will expound on my past life, and explain how depression and social insecurity have plagued my existence from an ealy age. A lack of social contact leads to a lack of social contact. A pattern emerged where in my younger and more formative years I was focused more on not committing suicide that I was figuring out how to date or having sex. Essentially, thats what happened. When I left for university I burnt all of my bridges at home in the hopes for a better future in another state. I spent the first semester getting drunk with my fraternity. I had to leave the next semester due to dropping out of the fraternity; the story is complex. The old pattern of depression and isolation of high school repeated itself. To say that I hated the dorms would be an understatement. I succeed in moving out last year. Its a year that has been good to me; to say nothing of my anti-depressant prescription and yet. I am still a 23 year old who had never had a girlfriend and totally and utterly inexperienced at the arts of courtship or intimacy. I feel like I have to pack what should have been 10 years of learning into 1 year. Keeping in mind that in the dating marketplace I am horribly undervalued due to my inexperience. In essence: I realize that my life has been rather unusual for a scion of upper middle class parents who is attractive, well off, and (frankly, thank you books!) highly intelligent. I've coped by burying my past; all of it. While continuously not satisfied by my present conditions. Perhaps I have unrealistic expectations? Perhaps I don't have any idea what happiness, or normalcy, or satisfaction mean? But I want this, this simple one thing. I want a relationship. I deserve one. I want to kiss, fondle, love, stare into the eyes of another human being...the things that I deserve just as I deserve my scared dignity! But how?

I'd start out by finding a great person, the type of person that you would love to be with, but be able to be yourself with. You're going to have to be honest. You need to be able to trust the person because it's okay to tell the story there's nothing wrong with that. I understand it 100%.. You need the person to understand too. When you find the right person, you'll know, you'll feel comfortable, be able to tell everything.. Plus have the sexual part. Take that slow though. Even though you're 24, it only happens once. I hope I helped some, and if I can help anymore let me know :)

Q: 18/f okay, before i get to the actual question, i'll give you a few facts first:

my boyfriend and i are both 18
we've been going out for about 2 1/2 years, and we've been sexually active since we were 15. we're not TOO active, like maybe we'll have sex once or twice a month.

onto my question:

lately when we've had sex, i've noticed that all the love is gone. its moreso making lust than making love. in this day and age, i know that sex usually means fulfilling one's needs, but i want to get the love back in bed. i miss the intensity of making love...instead i just feel like i'm trying to give him pleasure. or get pleasure.

what can i do to get the spark back?

Me and my guy have sex every chance we get. Sometimes it just feel like just sex, and not love. I hate that because we have such a great relationship and we are so close. One day it really got to me, and I started crying out of no where, he flipped. Babe, what's wrong... I said, it doesn't feel like we're making love. We had sex right after that. Perfectly back to normal, so talk it out. And for that spark, spice it up, put him in the mood. Get him so ready, then tease him, have fun with it. Bring the love back.

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I work way to much, I write for a paper, I'm going to beauty school, I'm almost done my two minors. I'm starting on my Child Psych degree. I'm such a positive and happy person! I'm blunt and honest! I'm good at advice, I'll answer anything. I've gone so far in life, from where I used to be, I've been through a lot. I can relate :)