I have a Masters degree in Clinical Psychology from Capella University and an undergraduate in Psychology from Rutgers University. I am currently writing a book about relationships, self-esteem and communication problems. I have answered questions on EVERY topic..NOTHING is too "weird" for me to answer. The juicier, the better. I am a former model who decided I could do more good in the world if I became a part of the solution. I am open and check my email daily. ASK AWAY!!!
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how long does sex usually last...? (link)
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Depends on the stamina of the individual youare with (as well as your own stamina), it depends on what "activities" you may be doing before or during the sex act itself, it depends on the circumstances like location (do you ahev to hurry up and have a "quicky" because time is limited. But normally, just sex with no foreplay is like 20-30 minutes for most men I would say. It can go longer if you stop and do other things during or if you change positions. That is a really broad question..but I hope I helped.
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can you have sex while your pregnent?(serious question, no smart answers please.) all fives. (link)
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Yes you can. I am in the process now of trying to conceive and I asked around as well as doing research onthe subject. One thing I was cautioned about was that in having oral sex, your mate should not blow into your vagina for it may cause an air bubble to disrupt the safety of the baby you are carrying and that will cause possible death. Also, I heard thay when you are pregnant that your sex drive, many times, increases. On the other hand, in my quest for answers, I had one girlfriend tell me that when she was pregnant the first time, every time she had sex she would bleed and the doctor said it was okay. Then she continued toahve sex and one day had a miscarriae. She stated that the doctor said that had nothing to do with it but she swears it does. SO if you begin to bleed after sex, call your doctor and explain it to him. But all other research and information points to sex during preganancy as okay.
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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything (link)
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First, I would like to say that I am not going to judge you and that I am soo sorry that two GROWN MEN took advantge of you in the sense that they should have known better than to have sex with a girl your age. I must tell you that if your mother already knows you are pregnant, she is eventually going to have to know who did this to you for you will need MUCH child support to help you raise this child. Also, no matter how old the guys are, YOUR CHILD needs to come first and deserves to know who it's father is. That is only fair. You decided to have sex with these two men and that is over with, but your child didn't ask to be put in this situation. When your baby is born, more than likely you will be living with your mother and it will be the two of you raising it, so your mother has a right to know as well who is the father for she is the one taking on his role in raising HIS child. I know you are scared but (and I donlt mean to sound harsh)if you were grown enough to have sex with these men, then you are grown up enough to handle the situation with your mother. The sooner you tell her, the sooner the initial shock will wear off and you both can move forward. She (your mother) will also be the one who will more than likely help you obtain any legal help you may need as well as the one you will cry to when times get too hard raising your child. GOOD LUCK!!!
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for a year. . i found out he had been "talking" with a few other girls.. he says he hasnt done anything with them but come on, we all know some guys just cant admit things ? Him and i have been sexual but once i found out about the other girls i just didnt have the drive to want to do anything with him, but once i did. . well, now i have a huge buldge in the back of my throat and its inflamed. It hurts to swallow and seems kinda; pussy if that could be ? What do you think it could be? Maybe, and HOPEFULLY just bronchitis or something of that sort. Also, even if it could be something else; my mom doesn't know that him and i have been having sex. Even though i am 17.. she would absolutely freak. Advice.. please.
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I don't mean to scare you but I knewof a girl when I was a teenager who had Gohorreah of the throat. She got it from a random boy, however, she was "talking" to many other people so she never really knew who she got it from. She left it alone until one day it got so bad that when she pressed her throat, you could hear the puss. Again, I don't mean to scare you but telling your mother or at least someone you can trust or who can help you get help and medication. Maybe there is a free clinic around you that could diagnose what you have and maybe keep it confidential. Either way, you have to get yourself seen. It may very well NOT be Gonorrhea but until a check-up is performed, you will never know. There are long term health risks for untreated infections and viruses that impactyour adult life, like being infertile. PLEASE seek out someone you trust in order to get this taken careof. Also, you never really know how your mother will react. I FINALLY told my mother about being sexually active when I was about your age and she actually already knew. She wasn't happy but she was relieved that she knew and she didn't punish me, call me harsh names or even yell. GOOD LUCK and keep me posted!!
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This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.
So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.
Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.
However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.
If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.
I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help? (link)
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My husband makes a lot of money a year, enough to where he bought me a house for Christmas, diamonds and the like BUT I AMJUST A SCHOOL TEACHER and COUNSLEOR who doens't make nearly...NEARLY as much as he makes. He and I have had this discussion before with him and here is his answqer. He loves me for me,things take time and patience and one day I will be able to contribute more but HE KNEW WHAT I WAS AND WHAT I HAD BEFORE HE MARRIED ME and it didn't matter. He wanted me...not what I could give monetarily. I mean, he is glad I have a job but he knows I am not bringing in the kind of money he is. I had an offer to dowhat you are planning to do a long time agao (like 7 years ago) but they wanted me to run the house. They were going to buy the house, have me live in it, let it be in my name and all I had to do was teach the girls how to be sexy and let them use the house ford ates. The money seemed good..GREAT but something inside said it was wrong...just didn't feel right.Not just because of the stigma of being in a job like that..just wrong inside. If I really wanted to do it, I wouldn't have had to think about it or ask my friends advice, I would have just did it. Look at the reason you are asking for advice, you feel it is not right somewhere within you as well. If you felt it was okay and wouldn't jeopardize your future with your partner, you would have just did it without asking anyone anything. Also, think of it in the other direction..you know the love you have for your partener and wouldn't want them to not only sleep with other people for money (and come home to you) but also risk their safety in the process(from arrests to psychos doing things to your loved one). You wouldn't want your loved one to feel this type of pressure inside just because of some preconceived notion that they may have about having to contribute more in order to make you happier or feel like they were less of a burden to you. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt and know that they are marrying you for LOVE not your charitable contributions. Love..Sweetheart..LOVE.
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