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Hey there, my name's pronounced like chan-dah, rhyming with panda. I'm 16 and a junior in an all girls Catholic high school.


Just a wee bit of a side note: I'm not claiming I know answers, I'm saying I can give options. I'm hoping with Advicenators I can learn as well as help others because, truth be told, I like helping people with problems because it makes me forget about my own & I love discovering and educating myself on new things.


Carrying on, here's some random tidbits about yours truly!:


I'm very diverse. Not only as a means of my heritage (Cambodian, Portuguese, Chinese) but also in reference to my wide range of interests. I've been hip hop dancing my whole life, I cheer for a D1 high school football team, I'm thoroughly involved in various clubs, I've shown much interest in the performing arts, and I am also a karate and MMA feen!


I love to meet new people! Seriously, I could spend hours and hours on Skype with someone just discussing life, politics, relationships,... anything! My crudy webcam never gets in the way of that! ;)


I'm always busy. One would think because of this fact I'd actually want to distance myself away from the computer, as a means of wasting time and what not, but I find it to be a nice reward after hard work with school, AP classes, Tumblring like it's my job, sports, online learning courses, and maintaining a social life.


I'm very crude and raunchy and know lots about the baby-making field, despite my nothing less than holy status. I guess it's part of my personality that loves to make "that's what she said" jokes and perverted puns.


Feel free to ask me anything! No question will be turned away from! That's a promise, xo

advice

i need a nickname for my guy friend

I always reference my guy friends as "bro" or anything that can emphasis bro like brah, brotato, brock brobama, anything like that! Also adding -bear to a name workd great, i.e. Joe-bear, or something of that sorts.

Also, I'll ask them to give me a nickname and in return I'll give them one. It sets the tone as to what kind of nick name they'd like. My friend gave me the nickname "sweet cheeks" so I now call him "teddy bear". Nicknames can also stem from inside jokes as well. For instance, say your guy friend likes Pokemon (lol), give him a Pokemon nickname, like Charmander! Haha, the possibilities are endless!

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Right now, I feel like I am in some sort of down-spell and am feeling unwanted and excluded. I feel like I have friends at school, and my friends always talk to me and laugh at what I say. But recently, I realized (via facebook) that I haven't been included in their plans and that makes me feel really crappy. I was in this group of friends with guys and girls, but then two of them started going out and being really exclusive. Like for Halloween, they invited everyone (including me this time) to go trick or treating with them except for my ex-boyfriend (who we're all still friends with) and my friend. Apparenty, my friend's boyfriend doesn't like my ex. But I think it's mean to exclude him from a large group, and I told them that. And now I feel like crap because on my facebook news feed they all tagged each other in an inside joke from something tonight that I wasn't invited too... I don't know what I did wrong. I'm a nice person. I'm kinda mad at my friend and her boyfriend because they seem to be calling all the shots, and it doesn't seem fair. And it doesn't help that my mom keeps asking me why I'm not hanging out with them much. What can I do about this situation? I feel like everyone has more friends than me and I'm not wanted. And by the way I think facebook is a giant waste of time; the only reason I use it is because I feel like I will be left out or behind if I don't. Thank you for reading this, please give me any comments or advice you have. Adolescence sucks.

I've been there. And it does indeed suck.

Truth be told, it probably has nothing to do with you personally. Your friends probably have just unintentionally left you out. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel. They'll never know how much this feeling of exclusion feels if you don't vocalize it. Of course, try your best to discuss this calmly and nicely. Also, maybe you should try calling the shots. Invite a huge group to hang out at your house or at the mall, wherever. If you become the event coordinator, there's no way you'll be excluded!

And so be it that they are leaving you out on purpose, there's never a better time to start meeting new people and making new friends! Social networks, especially Facebook, can be pointless so don't get too upset over it. Your best bet is to talk it out with your friends.

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