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I found out yesterday that a good friend of mine was killed at a party. Someone had slipped ecstasy in her drink and then she was brutally raped while she was passed out. I feel like this is all my fault. The reason being is because I always went to parties with her and I would always tell her "Beck, don't drink at parties". She'd always yell at me and tell me that I acted like her mother. But I knew I was right, I don't trust the drinks that people hand out at parties. The guy that raped her was my ex-boyfriend. I still feel like this was all my fault because, had I been there, he wouldn't have done anything to her because he's afraid of me. I'm sure by now you're all probably thinking "This is a load of bull" but believe it. This actually happens to people. She was my best friend. I knew I should have gone with her to that party. I'm completely miserable right now. She was my best friend. I always figured that nothing like that could ever hit so close to home. I'd always see stories like this on the news and I'd think to myself "How could they be so stupid?" Or, "That would never happen where I live." But it has. I don't know how to handle this. My ex boyfriend was arrested and my friends family is waiting to go to court but in the time being, I don't know how to handle myself. I don't even have the courage to go to her funeral tomorrow. I need help getting through this. Please help me... Thank you for those who take this seriously. I would really also like a non-sarcastic answer because this is a touchy subject for me. Thank you.


I apologize for the length.

wow I'm soooo sry for what happended. I wish no one would ever have to go through that. Try and go to her funerel, it will give you some closure and just be there for anyone you see who needs it. It might take a while but you'll start to accept this. You probably will never be fully over it. Also try and go to your x-bf's court dates because when his verdict is called and he is found gulity that will help you cope with your loss. again I'm sry this happended

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Does anyone know where I can find a pen pal at?
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www.myspace.com, www.friendster.com and even try going to google and typing in pen pal

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My b-day party is coming up and i just switched skewls now i'm in a public skewl. Now the kids at my old skewl r more care free and like wut they like. The kids at my new skewl care about wut other people think accept some (key word some) of my friends. I'm a mix of both wen i'm with certain friends i'm care free, but with my other friends i'm not.I'm not having a theme party (thats just wrong for a kid my age altho i'm only 13) but i dont kno wut i should say or do. Please help me!

Just try and be nice to everyone and try to gte both groups of friends to mingle with one another. Not all of them will get along so don't force it and if its really bad hang out with each group seperatly.

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Alright... So I just held a party which started about five hours ago and ended around 11:00 pm. 8th period today I invited one of my guy friends at the last minute. I told him that he couldn't bring anybody but himself, since there were already going to be a lot of people and my mother would flip if someone she didn't know, showed up at our house uninvited. He told me his friend whom he hasn't seen in a long time was coming to visit, but I told him that he couldn't bring him for reasons I already stated. It was basically an open invitation, if he could come alone, then he could come, but if he couldn't, then that was too bad. So, a little bit before the party after a few early people arrived, he called me and said he was in the neighborhood and was wondering if he could come a few minutes early. I said it was fine, and he came... with a friend in tow... I was a little pissed, but I let it slide for the time being. Well, a little while later after basically everyone arrived, he "pretended" to steal some of my DVD's and lots of food. Then, a few minutes later, he calls me over and says he's got a "shitload of alcohol" in his car. Now, my friends and I are not into that kind of stuff, and it made me really uncomfortable. I basically told him I thought he should leave. He got a little pissed but agreed to it. His friend was kind of just sitting there the whole time, not talking. So they got up and stood at the food table for a while and just hung out. I was really pissed and worried at the time, cuz one of my other freinds was threatening to leave (the alcohol comment made her really uncomfortable), so I said "Are you just going to loiter there?". He got really pissed then, and then left with his friend. A few minutes later he called all heated and was saying "You were really rude to me, and the alcohol thing was just a joke" which I didn't believe, because he only said it was a joke after I expressed my discontent. So then I told him again why he had to leave, and he was just like "yeah whatever, fuck you" and hung up. Now, I've thought about it over and over and my friends say that he's a jerk and I have every right to be angry. But I'm not sure... Was any of this my fault? I feel I made it very clear that he wasn't supposed to bring anyone, and that if he wanted to spend time with his friend, he should do so. We could always hang out some other time. It's not like he's doing me some huge favor by coming. I just need to know, for my own sanity, do I have the right to be angry? Thanks... Pom

you have every right to be mad. When you invited him you made it clear that he couldn't bring any friends. It was nice that you did let that one friend slide bc I probably would have too. But he had NO right to do those things to you. I would have kicked him out to. So don't feel bad at all. He was the promblem not you.

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There is this one kid who goes to my school and his name is Jamie. He's been at my school since second grade and I have always just thought he was kind of an annoying and weird kid. He used to like me and he still flirts with me but I have always sort of acted like I hated him (because i thought i did). Anyway I figured out that all this time I have liked him. It seems like a good thing (because he might still like me) but there is a problem...He's moving to Hong Kong in January! He's kind of a geek in my grade but he thinks he's really popular and stuff and I was going to tell him right away that I like him but then I decided that it would be really weird if he didn't still like me too and then he would tell everyone that I like him and then I would be thought of as a loser for the rest of my life at school. So after that I thought that maybe I would tell him on his last day of school but I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do....Please help me...SOON!

The only way to know if he still likes you or not is to ask him and tell him how you feel. If the feelings are mutual then why not try a long distance relationship. It doesn't matter how much time you spend together just make whatever time you have special. Don't worry what other people will think of you. Your living to please your self not them.

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i have this friend(lets call her mangan)and latly (especial last year) we have gotten into a lot of fights (not physical, but like over stupid thisngs) like 1 time when i didnt get her some shoe! but anyways we have been frineds since second grade and it is now eighth. she is makin new friedns and so am i, and i am afaidi will lose her, and that is the last thing i want to happen :( i just gotn know wut to do cuz i love her to death and always will please help me!

signed,

tryin to hold on!

(dont deleat cuz i really need adviuce!)

No matter how hard you might and try to save the friendship you two still might not be friends anymore. People grow up and grow apart that's fine. Just remember all the good times you had together.

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Hi see I found this really cute guy on the net but he lives far away, and he said he likes me and that we should meet sometime. but see he asked if we could date online, but I don't know bc he might be cheating on me
What do i do , Answer fast so I could give him the answer!!!

Ok first you met him online so you don't know what he's really like and you have to have relationship with someone you have to be able to see them once in a while. So I wouldn't date him unless you him and actully like how he is as a person off the computer

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IM moving to newton, MA (near boston) form tx and i dont know anyone. if anyones is in the area or knows so one in the area to just talk to online tell me cause i need a friend
anyone live around there and wanna talk?

thanks

I live kinda near Newton,Billerica to be exact. Massachusetts isn't too bad. But if you have any questions about the area just ask me either on here on AIM.

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15 female

i got my 1st GOOD hicky from my best friend (which is a girl) but we are really close...we were on the way to someones house w/ her and her boyfriend and she was showing me the hickys' that her boyfriend gave her and i was like hey i want a hicky!! and she gave me one...is that wrong for ur best friend to give u a hicky!!??

*I AM NO BI!*

No that's not wrong that just you and your best friend playing around. So don't worry about it.

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