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My name is Christine and I'm a 13 year old girl. I don't know what to do, I can't trust most of my friends anymore and everyone is pissed at me, I don't know what i did! One of my friends, Chantal, doesn't keep any of the secrets I tell her amd now she's mad at me cause she said I talked behind her back, but I didn't...what can I do??? (link)
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Get new friends, because they don't sound like they were true.
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I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks (link)
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I think its GREAT that you didn't get pressured into smoking and drinking after you realized what you REALLY wanted. I'm impressed. I'm also going into 10th grade and a lot of 15/16 year old girls wont admit what you just did. You know it IS possible to hang out and go to parties and not drink or smoke, that's not what makes the parties fun, it's being with friends and just having a good time, you could drink soda instead of alcohol, and everybody else is so drunk they wouldnt even realize. Your "friends" should wanna hang out with you because of you, not because you drink and party. Maybe they weren't true friends in the first place. I'm also having a hard time finding where I fit in, because I moved here 2 years ago, and let me tell you.. I've been through about every group there is.. cheerleaders, punks, preppies, goths, just search around and find where you fit in most, it'll all work out, i promise babe
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