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I have a friend who is really negative...about EVERYTHING. She has even managed to turn the fact that she's studying abroad in EUROPE into a negative situation. Now, she says she doesn't want to go, but she has to because everything has been payed for. There are other traits that make our relationship very difficult and so I am cutting her off as soon as she leaves the country. Until then, how can I subtly remind her or deflect her of negativity. (She is in denial about her not-so-great personality traits, so stating the direct issue will do no good.) For example, she complains on and on about going to Europe, "I don't wanna go. I just can't do it. It's going to be terrible..." I would respond with a nice--so nice it wouldn't bother a hypersensitive person--and subtle hint to change the subject or what-not because of her negativity. I've already told her I'd LOOOOVE to switch places with her! (link)
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one of the very obvious reasons people act negatively is that they are looking for praise. we all do it, just some to more of an extremem like your friend here. how i think you should remind her is by catching her red-handed. whenever she says something negative, point it out to her as a pessimistic outlook and give her the optimistic side. then try explaining to her that optimism is really a happier path to take and how she should always look for one positive thing in every situation.
i hope this helps you!
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