about

One of my favorite things to do is to listen to people and help them with their problems. =) It just feels so great when you know that you've helped someone that day. I've been through a lot within the past few years....so I can offer pretty good advice on most things. A lot of the time, i'm on here or kiwibox...lol I'm addicted to them both, so I will probably answer any questions almost immediatly. =)

This column is meant for basically any problem you may have on Love, Relationships, problems with family members, school, work, etc. If you ask any questions on rape, suicide, or any other serious situatioins, all i'm going to do is advise that you seek professional help from counsler or doctor, and give you my personal viewpoint. Hope any advice I have given helps ya'll. =) Hope you like my advice column!!!!! *XoXo*

advice

I just moved from my home in Louisiana and now I am really homesick I am crying like crazy and don't know what to do. People in my school are nice but their not my type. Can you give me tips on how to make friends and make my happier?


Elizabeth girl 13

Omgosh I felt like that last year when I had to move BACK to my old home though. I lived in one place all my life and then I moved to a place i've always wanted to be at and I was finally really really happy. Then we had to move back and it really sucked...I left my boyfriend, family, friends, school, home...all kinds of stuff. I cried all the time and i'm still getting over it and this happened my sophmore year and i'm now a junior. I'll tell you how i've been making friends....just sit next to a person you think might be interesting to talk to, and then strike up a conversation with them. Like say something funny or w/e....maybe ask them for an answer to the classwork. Believe me, pretty much nobody is my type where I live either, but for the time being before I can go back home, I need to make the best of it....and that's what you should do too =) You needa be happy...Hope I helped! =)

[view]

This sunday its been my one month aniversary with my vegetarianism. Though that kind of makes me sad because for 2 weeks my friends havn't talked to me. They say i've changed a llot, i dyed my hair from blonde to black, wear all black, and am really into rock (though i always have been) and, they ssay they wont talk to me because im a vegetarian! I started skipping lunch, A. because i just cant bring myself to eat. B. because no one to sit with. So i just wait outside (im 13 and in 7th grade)till the bell rings. And home, i lock myself in my room and say like 10 words...max. I just dont want to talk. *sigh* am i slipping into depression. I mean, why should i quit..i do have reason. Factory farms treat there animals HORRIBLE and my 'friends' dont beleive that! I brought my proof, (a book) and they refused to read it. I told them to go to www.meetyourmeat.com and they wouldnt! *sigh* im just so confused, sorry this is long.
Signed,
-.The lost last piece to the puzle.-

Those people you call "friends" don't really sound like they are doing their job. If they really cared and really were your friends, they would support you in anything you did. If this is the way you are, they need to accept that. Don't let it bring you down, find someone else to be friends with. It's their loss hun. Since you say you have changed though, it could be a little weird for them because they may not be adjusted to your change yet. You know sometimes the things you do, affect people who care about you...even if it's not that big of a deal. Hope I helped! =)

[view]

Ive had this friend Z since 7th grade and we talk everyday, mainly cuz he IM's me all the time. But I also have a boyfriend that ive had for a year and 7 months and they obviously dont like eachother. Z doesnt like my boyfriend cuz he doesnt talk to him and that bothers him and my boyfriend doesnt like him because he thinks that Z is tryin to steal me from him. Well...lately its becoming a little obvious hes jealous. But in the last couple days everytime he talks to me he keeps talking about his ideal girl and theyr some things i have in common with his ideal girl. Everytime i ask him if hes talking about me he keeps sayin that he thinks im "a cool person to talk to" and "im a great friend". But yesterday he told me he had an opionion about me...but has kinda been avoiding me all day today. Not knowing this is driving me crazy. But the main point here is...is this guy sending me mixed signals or what or does he want me in a more than friends kind of way...plz help, sry its so long, ill rate a 5 if u answer.

Hrm, well to me, it does seem like he is sending mixed signals. If he does have feelings for you, maybe he just isn't sure if he wants you to know about them. Him avoiding you could mean he knows that you are getting the signals and he could be worried about the way this could affect your relationship with your boyfriend. Maybe you should talk to him about this, and ask him to be totally honest with you, but if you don't think that is the right thing to do, then leave it alone. It could be just a small crush. Hope I helped any! =)

[view]

..okay i know this is really long but i really need advice!! well this girl is one of my best friends..she tells me everything..well about a month ago she told me she was going anerexic, because she thinks shes fat! She is really skinny..!! I told her not to because she is really skinny and that is sooo unhealthy..and its stupid! She doesnt believe me whenever i say shes skinny..she just thinks im being nice whenever im really not! Everyday at lunchtime she would get a bottle of water..and if one of the teachers made her eat she would go to the bathroom and throw up! One day i followed her without her knowing. Well I didnt know what to do so I went to the guidence counsler..and told him what was going on..well he called her mom..but didnt say i said anything. i am not sure what her mom said.. so my friend found out it was me because i was the only one who she told. and i didnt know that! so she got mad at me and i appologized and we made up..and today in school she said she was doing it again?!??!?! i have talked to her a million times but its not working! i dont know what to do! i already told the consler the last time she did it..what should i do?! please help!!

Have you tried telling her your feelings? Something along the lines of, "I'm worried about you. You're my bestfriend and I don't want you to hurt yourself"? If talking to her isn't working, you could talk to her mother in person, or you could ask her to go the guidence counsler, and offer to go with her, so she dosn't have to go through this alone. Even if she does get mad at you for doing this, you'll probably feel a lot better with her being mad at you and knowing you helped her, than to live with the fact you didn't help her, and she almost kills herself because of anorexia. Just keep telling the counsler, or like I mentioned before, talk to her mother IN PERSON. That has a much better effect than her recieving a call from the school.

[view]

<<< Previous Advice Column
Next Advice Column >>>
eXTReMe Tracker