Hey everyone,
my name is Devan, I'm 19 years old and a sophmore at Arizona State University. Go Devils!! I moved here from Kingston Springs, TN (20 min. out of Nashville). If any of my friends have a problem of any sort whether girl/guy problems, school issues, social issues or anything of the sort, I'm always the one that they come to. I think the reason that my friends feel comfortable coming to me is because they know that whatever is discussed between the two of us stays between the two of us. I do that for my friends and all though I don't know any of you I will do the same for you as well. I'm trustworthy and I can guarantee that I've personally been in or have had a friend go through just about any situation you can come up with. Whatever you've got for me feel free to ask cause I'm down right honest and will help you the best way I can!
Gender: Female
Location: I moved from TN and I live in Arizona.
Occupation: student
Age: 19
AIM: blndbarbie18
Member Since: June 27, 2005
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I'm a 13 year old female. Almost a year ago I became friends with a boy, also 13. We have always been very close, we have gone out at some points and up until last Friday we would hug and kiss all the time and we were close. Then on Monday night, he told me that he didn't think we should be so close anymore and that he wanted to stop. We weren't a proper couple so he wasn't breaking up with me but it felt like that. Now he wont hug me and he barely talks to me. He's suddenly got very close to another girl and I have no idea why he's suddenly changed. I really miss his friendship and I miss our closeness. I have tried talking to him about it but he tells me I'm being pathetic etc. Next week I am going on a school trip to France and I am so scared that he will get closer with the other girl I mentioned. I know I'm being posessive but he was my best friend and I miss him, I have no idea what to do. (link)
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You're not going to like this part of what I have to say, but it's really difficult to carry on any type of relationship at your age. What I want you to remember is that people go through life and will get "broken up with" or do the breaking up themselves several times throughout life. A lot of times you won't understand why, and yes it will hurt, but sometimes you just need to except it and move on. Now, losing a friend is much harder. In order to at least keep him as a friend you have to first except that he doesn't want to be intimate with you anymore. I'm sure the reason for that is because he's found someone new, I know this sounds harsh and I'm sorry. You need to let him know that you support his decision and you support him being with this girl because if it makes him happy that's all you want. That shows a good friend. Explain to him that you still hope that you two can try to go back to being friends as you were before. Now I want you to think about your trip in a completely different light. Instead of thinking of it as a way for him to get closer to some girl, think of it as a way for you to take your first big step in getting over him. I think it will be an excellent way for you to get your mind off things. Just think about all those cute French boys who are just waiting to see you! I hope this helps and let me know how you do!
~Devan~
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