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I consider myself to be a "normal" teenage girl. There really isn't anything outrageous that separates me from others so I consider myself to be painfully average. I can say that I do have a level head and I find it easier to give out advice than to come up with advice for myself. Hopefully I'll end up helping someone.

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13/f. I was in the popular preppy group but now I am in the gothic. I think I am still bffs with my friend in the popular group. If I ask her anything around that or that she says oh ya why wouldn’t we be I love you or bffs still. We used to be bffs but then it was off and on because we didn’t do the same sports. So I got tired of thinking if tomorrow wed be bffs or not. my gothic friends are always there for me and im very rough and they are to so i can just be myself and also they dont theyd never tell a parent if someone hurts them. my old preppy friends would always just sit there and laugh at stuff that made no sense and if someone hurts them they go tell it drove me fuckin crazy. they never understood what i went through or my music or me cussing. my new gothic friends I love them and they and he are the only ones that understand me. i miss the preppy popular people i dono why? i was never as close with them. ive always liked black but never wore that much because it was 'not perky' i never was perky thay tried to change me. i miss them. but i love being with my gothic friends their my bffs. im myself around them and alot happier and everything. but my parents dont like them. and is trying to keep me away im tired of sneaking and she nos and shes always saying what wrong with my friends!!! im just like them so whats the matter. were not the extreme gothic kids. we go to a fucked up catholic school no peircings or tattoos or hair coloring. theyre always checking US its driving me fucking crazy. think if you were all for expression and you could never express urself at all or even say gothic at school. their always watching us were always doing something wrong. ive always been the quiet shy girl but now im breakin out. whats wrong with me?
which group should i go with?
whats wrong with my school?
is it illegal for no expression just for us?

Just be yourself. Wear what you like and talk to whoever you like. If other people won't talk to you then forget them. Don't worry about labels like 'gothic' and 'preppy' or any of those cliques because in the next few years you'll realize how insignificant they are. Life isn't a label. Just make sure you're happy the way you are with whoever that may be.

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I am just going into the 6th and and alot of my old friends don't have the same classes as me, were are still going to be friends but I want to have some friends to spend the shcool day with too.I'm to nurves to go and talk to the other kids what should i do?

I had the same problem when I was in sixth grade. Most of my friends were in different classes and I had to get to know kids that went to school on the otherside of my town. Eventually I started talking to people at lunch or making comments during the schoolday to people. I befriended people that sat by me in class and even ended sharing a book with a cute boy in my science class. Basically, be yourself and be friendly. Don't be afraid of other kids or what they think of you. Everything will come together without you even realizing it, trust me.

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ok so i like this guy, lets call him frank. and so frank has been my friend for like ever and gives hints about liking me, but apparently he doesnt, but just flirts with me to see if i like him just so he can feel like superior or whatever i dont quite get it..its dumb but true. so i told like my best like *guy friend* who i tell everything to, lets call him arnold ha. so arnold is all like no dont like him an dim like why whats wrong with him? and hes making up all these excuses that make no sence and im all confused. then im like why dont you want me to like frank! and he goes, because i like you, and signs off. i dotn know what to do! i dont want it to be all akward around arnold! and what about frank? please help! any advice/opinions work

If "Arnold" is just a friend and nothing more, make it clear to him. Honesty is the best policy especially with friendship and doing anything but be honest would be more harmful than admitting your feelings [or lack of feelings] to him. With "Frank" I can't help much. Sometimes you can't help who you like even if they don't share the same feelings toward you. All I can say is that if he's not going to return any feelings then he isn't worth your time. Everyone loves flirting and the feeling attached with a crush but don't let that feeling get too far. Trust me, it only ends up hurting.

Good luck with things. Hopefully it'll all turn out all right.

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ok i am 14 and a female and i am dating a 16 year old he is very nice and we have been going out for 3 weeks i have known him for like 2 years and he is one of my best friends brothers and all my friends are kool with it and everything but ok i have made a decision that if we are together for a while i am probably gonna give it up to him if u no wat i mean so ya but he said that he doesnt want to do it til im ready



(this isnt really a questions its more like i just want an answer on wat you think about this please right bak

Hm, this is kind of tough to answer, besides the seemingly generic 'you're not ready', but it seems as though he has your best interest in mind. Don't make any quick decisions, because as cliche as it may sound, having sex is a decision that you can't take back. Fourteen is a very young age, too young to understand most emotions. I'm sure you'll do what is right for you but you might also want to think about what is wrong for you. Weigh the consequences and your boyfriend's response and ask yourself why you made your decision. Thinking doesn't mean right or wrong but it always helps to just slow down a bit.

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this friend of mine all of a sudden stopped talking to me and gave me attitude and went to another one of the girls in my class and now doent talk to me anymore. what should i do????? please answer soon.

Ignore her and get a new friend. No one deserves a "friend" that will leave them for no reason. Find someone that is worth your time that won't leave you at the drop of a hat. Don't worry too much about it, because by showing her that you're worried you're showing her that she won whatever little game she was playing.

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