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Ok, my 3 best friends recently kind of just...left me. Like on the weekend we were gonna get together to go to the movies, and one was like "I just dont think it is going to work out" and then i found out later that they went! And we were all gonna do the Halloween costume theme deal and now I found out that they changed it to be the Fanta girls but they didnt want me to know and it is even sadder because I came up with us being the Fanta girls. And for them to make a Halloween thing with it just makes me mad. But I dont know what to do. I used to have so much fun with them, but now it is like they all hate me. And I have heard that they said that.

So I asked and they were like "No, we dont hate you..." and like if they someting totally mean and then brag about it and I dont get mad they will twist up my words like "We went to the movies and it was sooooo much fun and the most funny thing happened.." "cool" "are you mad at me? because oyu are acting like a total b*tch" please help, i dont know what to do...

Maybe it's just time to make new friends. The same thing happened to my sister, her best friend called her and told her they shouldn't be friends anymore. After awhile she wanted to be friends again. But when they hang out and stuff she alwayz ditches my sister to go by her other friends. I would say make some new friends and 4get about the old ones..it may be hard but its for the better. o and about the halloween costumes...get some girls together and u can be the Fanta Girls 2...make sure ur costumes are better...Hope I helped ~Shelby~

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okay, my best friend started dating my ex, which is no big deal cuz i don't like him, but he is a major stoner and its really starting to change her. she tried smoking for the first time, and about 2 weeks ago we went to the movies, and afterwards they went to the skatepark / a couple ppl and i went with, but since the stoners label me as a "prep" they wanted me to leave so i left w/ my friend rachel. I've tried talking to my best friend about how she's changing and just when things were good again she goes and ditches me to do that. she told me she'd chose me over him anyday, but she's not proving it. what should i do? ~*Tammi*~

Your friend would probably pick you over her bf but that doesn't mean she can't try new things maybe she was just cuious. It may not be just her bf thats changing her. Everybody changes, but just keep talking to her. She probably wants to talk too...if she has tried talking to you try to be really understanding..don't just say what she did wrong. hope i helped

p.s. maybe what she needs to hear is that you will still be her friend no matter what she decides to do!Make sure you mean it tho.

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I know this is wrong but i got myself into some serious mess.My bestfriend has a bf and they been together for 9 months and the other day me and him saw each other at this one place and we ended up in his car doing things.I feel really bad i don't know if i should tell her or not.I dont want to but i dont want her finding out from anybody else because i love her so much she is like my sister.IM confused plz help!

First of all how could you do that to her!!!!!! you cant be much of a friend of you do stuff like that! Anyways u gotta tell, her she might hate you forever and she might be really glad you were truthful, you gotta take ur chances ~Shelby~

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