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There is not one columnist here, but two. We're both 16, female, and don't feel like giving out real names. so, we're just going by mizu and hikari. We were born & raised in wonderful rochester, ny, where if you don't like the weather, give it a day and it will change. but anyway, this is our column.

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well my best friend and i have been friends for 3 years ok. we have been getting in fights once a week and its driving me crazy lets just say i have been seeing my councler alot for and one day i didnt talk to a single person. well we recently just got in a fight because i was walking with a friend that she doesnt like him at all. i tryed to talk to her but we just got in this big fight and she says she cant trust me because im friends with someone she doesnt like and right now i have alot of problems and when i try to explain to her wat my problem is she just compares it to her life. i dont know how to tell her how i feel with out her getting all mad and crap like that. so can u give me some ideas on how to talk to her. ooo and shes an only child. she can be self concided to if u couldnt tell already.

Look, if she's really your friend, she wouldn't care who your other friends are. Just because she doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you can't be his friend. From the looks of it, it sounds like she's bullying you, and giving you a hard time over something stupid. A real friend wouldn't be giving you such a hard time, and if she was really your friend - she'd want to try and make things better. You shouldn't have to fight with her every week, and you shouldn't have to worry about making her mad. If you go around for the rest of your life appeasing people, you'll only feel worse and worse. Stand up for yourself, tell her you can be friend with whoever you want and if she doesn't like it, that's her problem. And you should tell her straight out - if you want to be my friend, then stop giving me a hard time and let's try to work this out. If she can't handle that, then maybe you guys just shouldn't be as good of friends anymore. Don't let her get to you. I hope it all goes well.


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