I only joined this because I realized that all of my friends come to me for advice. I have two gifts: the gift of gab, and the gift of brutal honesty. I am trying to remember that there is a difference between brutal honesty and bitchiness. I am really cute, relatively intelligent, and sort of funny, so I think I am in at least the top 25 percent of the general population of humans. My advice might be the stuff you don't want to hear, but it is probably the stuff that you need to know.
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Location: St. Louis
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Age: 23
Member Since: October 29, 2006
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i've had the same group of best friends for five years & i've recently lost them all because i tried to do the right thing. anyway, i decided that i don't need negative people in my life. sooo...i'm going to try & make new friends & i was wondering: what are some good conversation starters? [: (link)
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Aww, there are a million books that have been written about your very predicament.
It's hard, and I mean HARD to make new friends sometimes. The key? Listening. You don't have to have a zillion questions memorized or a speech prepared when making new friends, the key is listening.
Let me explain.
Say you and I are talking for the first time, and we know nothing about each other. We start with the boring questions, you know, where do you live, how old are you, where do you go to school, blah blah blah blah blah.
Now say you ask me what seems like a normal, boring, regular old question, like this.
"So, do you like living in St. Louis?"
and I say
"Oh, I love St. Louis, especially now that everyone has baseball fever."
If you listened to what I said, your next question should be about baseball. I left the door open for you to ask a question about baseball such as
"Did you go to any of the World Series games?"
"Are you a big Cardinals fan?"
or blah blah blah
Example 2
You say
"What did you do this weekend?"
I say
"Oh, I got super duper drunk and ate an entire carton of fried rice"
and then this would open you up to ask questions like
"So is fried rice your favorite food to eat after a night of drinking?"
or
"Do you prefer beer or liquor? What's your most favorite drink?"
The key to getting people to like you
is paying attention to what they say,
and it's super duper easy to do. Just listen. It's the little things in what people say that gives away information about themselves.
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My best friend's birthday was at the end of August. I got her an amazing gift before her bday even came, but the thing is - I have not given it to her! We sort of lost touch during August & September. We go to the same school, but we aren't as close as we were years ago. I want to give her the gift (she knows I got her something) but I feel like an idiot giving it to her so late. What should I say/do without making it seem like her friendship isn't important to me? (link)
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Give her the gift. Right now. Read this message, find her immediately, and give her the gift. The gift itself shows that you are a great friend, and you do not need to make explanations for yourself.
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