Hi I'm Julie. I go to a small private school. Socially, i'd probably give the worst advice because i just don't make the effort to talk to people. With seeing everything, that's not true for me. I can help with boy problems for sure though. No, i'm not good in the fashion area either. For me, the idea of an amazing outfit would be a band tee & jeans or something. I don't wear makeup. I don't do drugs, drink, smoke or any of that stuff. I'm on the computer too much. I've had heartbreak a ton of times & it's horrible. Currenly, I have a boyfriend & he's amazing. I guess you could say I'm good at giving relationship advice [love life, friends, or family] because I do know about friends & how people can be mean & stuff. I know about overprotective parents since I have them, but not abusive ones. Feel free to ask me anything. I'm here to help. ♥ Julie
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ok, ever since kindergarten, i have ALWAYS been the only girl at pretty much everything. most of my friends are guys and they're kind of like my brothers. i have about 38 guy friends right now, we hang out alot and stuff but a couple nights ago (the evening of the day before school) atleast 10 of them asked me out. i asked them how long have they liked me and like 5 of them said since 2nd grade. so yeah...i'm kinda stuck. i like 3 of them, Brandon, Jordan, and Chase, i don't know what to do, cuz if i go out with one of them, then they'll all get in a big fight and i'll be in the middle and i HATE it when that happens! i don't know what to do, i've been trying to avoid them as much as possible at school and we don't hang out as much as we used to so things have changed quite a bit. if they were just my regular friends then i wouldn't be too worried but they're my BEST friends and i've told them some secrets and stuff, i really trust them but i don't want our friendships to end and i don't want to get in a big fight. i miss seeing them and playing games with them but now, i can't even talk to them because i don't know what to say. most of them are on the football team too and they're i guess you could say popular. and i'm kind of confused why they waited until now to tell me, and i know they're not lying cuz they would never lie to me. i don't know what to do, can someone please help me?
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well tell them you don't feel the way about them they feel about you. & you WANT to be their friends. & there's gotta be someone out there better than you for them that way. but liking someone is always gonna change the friendship, unless they learn to get over you. & who cares if they're popular? that doesn't have to do with anything. i mean..unless you like any of these 10 guys i'd go out with one;; but then that WILL affect the friendship because they'll be all sad & stuff & then that guy would probably brag. so i'd just tell them all. get them all together in one room. so that you did everything for them all equally. but gosh, with all those guy friends it'll be hard to date. good luck.
♥ Julie
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umm i'm not trying to be mean, i'm trying to say this in the nicest way possible, but can you be a bit nicer when you answer our questions sometimes? by always saying umm and things like that it gives me the impression that you don't really care and you just think these questions are stupid. and don't get me wrong, i would probably be so bad at giving advice and you are great at it. you really helped me get through too of my problems so i'm not saying that you don't give good advice or anything. just can you please cut back on the negativity? i'm sorry if i offended you in any way because you are so great. thanks. (link)
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ummmm ok that was interesting. oh gosh i said umm! you seem to have some mood swings there. "i like you, but you're mean to other people." if you knew me, you'd know i'm half depressing & half happy. depends on my day. i do think some of these questions are quite stupid. so do some of my friends who read them. i will speak my mind & if you don't like it, then don't ask anymore questions. there's other people in the world better than me with a plastic smile on their face. kthxbye.
♥ Julie
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Hey Julie -- I'm in need of some advice.
My so-called "best friend" is being not so much of a friend ever since she has been going out with this kid. everytime i would call her to make plans or something she would go "WHAT DO YA WANT" and that REALLY bothered me. and all these other people that I'm friends with she's making them hate me. (i found this out from a real friend) and I feel like I've lost many good friends. I'm not so sure what I should so -- say "screw 'em" and go on with life, or deal with all of her not so friendly ways. I'm afarid to talk to her because i think she might go telling people!! OH and one more thing -- she only calls me when SHE'S bored and has nothing to do. I really hope you can help me. (link)
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say "screw 'em" and go on with life. my advice exactly. there's better friends. if you can make one person ruin your life, that's horrible. there's got to be other people out there who won't.
♥ Julie
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okay im 13 and all my friendz are 14 but all of them are alwayz like wanting to get boyfriendz and thinking they wont find the perfect one and i alwayz tell them that itz to early to worry about that and just have fun with your life now but all of them say the same thing about each bf they have and they say he is the one and then they brake up and they r really hurt n i dnt like them alwayz getting hurt and they never listen to me cause they move on to a new guy right after i jsut dont like them alwayz crying over one lil guy and worring about not finding the perfect one can ya help me please (link)
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well basically, get used to it. that's what most teenaged girls do. some are good at getting over guys, some others aren't. but me, i`m different. i want to find the one. i know i haven't yet. but i NEVER had a boyfriend before. i know you don't like watching your friends get hurt but you can't tell them to stop dating. if they want to date, they just will. you can tell them how you think it's dumb how they go through guys like water, but they`ll just look at you weird. trust me. my cousin is like that. except she doesn't cry over guys. she usually dumps them. lol. but she knows what's right for her & whatnot. i hope when they get older, they find someone better. i wish you luck. IM me if you need anything.
♥ Julie
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my best friend is really nice. except now that she's "hott" and every guy likes her she acts so different around guys. and i've told her this MANY times but denys it. theres probably not alot of advice for you to give about this, but has this ever happened to you? thanks a bunch. (link)
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uhhh...yea.....but umm if you're all mad, just get over it. everyone has inner beauty & hers might not be like yours. but guys are dumb & immature & don't go by that like some people do. cause like everyone i know is prettier than me & has more friends than me & has had at least one person like them before. but no, not julzy. but i want it more than them. & i don't want it from those losers. ok, well one loser i do. but i won't change who i am for it. i want to be loved for who i am, not how "hott" i am. if you don't think the same, that's pretty shallow. wait for the guy that's right for you. not right for how you look & how he looks. cause trust me, the guy i love looks like a pizza! haha. & not a yummy one either. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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ok well, i already asked you for advice on a really big problem and you definately helped, so now i have a little problem that i need help with [it's summer and i cant really talk to my friends about it]. well one of my best friends invited me to the american idol concert on july 31st... the one in MA, and tickets were hard to get.i said i would go [of course]. doesnt sound like a problem, but, oh it is. see, me and my friends at school are like a threesome, and my friend only invited me, not the other girl [not her fault, she only had one extra ticket]. im not sposed to tell her, but i feel really guilty. please help julie! (link)
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tell her you feel bad about it. tell her about it. make it up to her by going somewhere with her & doing something special with her. make her feel wanted & not like the third wheel. i`m going to that concert on the 31st you know, so you can like meet me. haha. but umm it's in manchester, nh not mass..so know where you're going! lol. hope i helped. oh & tell me who you are. it'd be cool to meet you.
♥ Julie
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Hey Julie! I know this girl. Her name is Jazzy. Umm she used to be really nice to me and we were kinda friends..not really close though. But now she has just totally changed. When she talks about me to people she acts like she was bestfriends w. me forever but then when she talks to me she acks like she doesn't even know my name. I really want to be closer friends w. her then I've ever been but I just don't know how to approch her. Me and my other friend got wicked mad at Jazzy for something and called her some bad names but the next day we called back and apoligized big time. She said that she didn't think we were even really sorry. Now she's starting to forgive me a little bit but she doesn't want to talk to me at all. How do I tell her that I'm really sorry and just want to be friends?
Thanx a bunch--Jess (link)
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exactly how you just did. tell her you're sorry & want to be friends. express your true feelings within yourself [as fake as it sounds, it's real]. just tell her exactly what you told me. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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okay. so we are going back to school next month... but like over summer ive changed my style. but just a little bit. but im afraid that my friends like wont like it. and stuff. but im not sure why im so afraid. (link)
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because as much as you might say you don't care what others think of you...you do. lots of people find that out in their lives. i did. i changed it. =] but if they're like "eww i hate that shirt." just be like "thanks." if you say "thank you" everytime someone insults you & nothing more it works wonders & pisses them off. & if they don't like you for your "style" they're not your real friends. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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my old question and answer...
"there's these people who are really mean to me. annonymously [i can't spell that] over the internet. i don't know why, i can't think of anything i've ever done to make them be that way. but they'll make mean comments about things i can't help [hair, body, etc.] and how they think i'm stupid because i have internet things [xanga, livejournal] and they just don't get it. i think it might be because they don't understand it and are jealous, but i just can't figure out why anyone would be so rude on purpose. can you help me with how to act, and/or why they would be that way [other than jealousy, possibly?]. thanks
do they know you in person?
if not;; that happens all the time.
people either are stalkers or will become them if they have nothing better to do like that. people do that to me all the time. there's blockage for a reason. there's "i can get your IP & do crap to your computer if you don't shut up" for a reason. so yea. they're losers. they need to die. you rock cause you have internet nerdy talent, which i think is awesome. k bye. hope i helped.
♥ Julie "
well they're doing it again. yes, some know me in person. i don't know how to do ip stuff [i wish i did] and they don't get the whole internet talent thing. i just don't know how to get rid of them. i cleared out my profile [haha, you probably know who i am] and i didn't really want to. help?
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i THINK i know who you are now.
but that's why there's the block button.
or do what i do "aww thanks. you're so kind. i love you so much. KISS ME KISS ME DARLING!
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Hey Julie,
i need some advice. My friend is a bit of a whore. She cheated on her boyfriend with her ex, AND cheated on him with her brother's friend!! (who is two years older then her) I've been talking with another friend and we really want to tell her boyfriend. Is this the right thing to do??
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that's not a bit of a whore. that's A LOT. ok, you can't let him not know about it. but you shouldn't tell him yourself, cause then your friend will get all mad at you, or the b/f might not believe you & it`ll all just get blown outta proportion. who you need to talk to is that skank friend of yours & tell her what you think she's doing is wrong...& that you're not the boss of her, but it's just not right & that when you hurt others like that, it hurts...bad. it's worse than physical. emotions can go haywire. people can kill themselves over those kinds of things. if she doesn't stop, then it's time to tell the boyfriend & then if he doesn't believe you, prove it. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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I need some advice!!! i don't really have very many friends. i'm friends with this one girl. Well, she's my friend, but i'm more like her "back-up" friend. like if one of her BFF's, one of her REALLY tight friends, can't do something she will call me if she HAS to, to do something. i think she's just using me fer a trip to the mall. and this might sound pathetic, but, i think she is mah only friend. i still talk to ppl at school but i'm not that good of friends with them, to call them and say, "wanna hang?!"
i'm really, really, REALLY shy. So, its hard for me to go up to someone, even if it's someone in mah english class, and say "Hi." it's totally pathetic. but, how do i make friends???
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it's ok. i don't either. =] that's what online friends are for. but to make friends, you need to actually call them & stuff. & make an effort to make plans with them. that person sounds like a friend, not a BEST FRIEND that you hang out with. i don't have a best friend either. it's really hard to find one. i avoid people for reasons of no social skills & i just am too lazy to do anything, but i like being alone. but if you don't, you NEED to do something. otherwise, you might have crappy friends the rest of your life.
♥ Julie
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how do you not have a lot of friend..i would like LOVE to be your friend!!:) haha (link)
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well you could start by telling me who you are...
♥ Julie
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julie,
i have a friend problem. well me and her have been friends since 6th grade and she's gets mad at me over the stupidest reasons. and i dont know what i should do because i want to be friends w/ her but i dont know if i should tell her how i feel or not. but i really do want to be friends with her and i just dont know what to do.. can you help me please!? (link)
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well tell her how you feel. & if she gets mad at you, then she's not your friend. people change. friendships fade. some stay together, but not all. haha maybe it's the hormones! =] my friend gets mad at every little thing i do, but i just kinda am like "yea w/e" cause i don't really have too many friends & i kinda understand how i get her mad. it's hard to deal with someone like me. but you NEED to talk to her. talking is like the antidote for all problems. in my opinion anyway. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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there's these people who are really mean to me. annonymously [i can't spell that] over the internet. i don't know why, i can't think of anything i've ever done to make them be that way. but they'll make mean comments about things i can't help [hair, body, etc.] and how they think i'm stupid because i have internet things [xanga, livejournal] and they just don't get it. i think it might be because they don't understand it and are jealous, but i just can't figure out why anyone would be so rude on purpose. can you help me with how to act, and/or why they would be that way [other than jealousy, possibly?]. thanks (link)
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do they know you in person?
if not;; that happens all the time.
people either are stalkers or will become them if they have nothing better to do like that. people do that to me all the time. there's blockage for a reason. there's "i can get your IP & do crap to your computer if you don't shut up" for a reason. so yea. they're losers. they need to die. you rock cause you have internet nerdy talent, which i think is awesome. k bye. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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i think my friend cuts herself. (link)
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that's horrible. you need to get her help. even if she tells you not to. she's hurting herself. i had a friend who cut.
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Hey. okay, I have a really great boyfriend. i really love him and i just feel great when we hangout. but the thing is, he lives the town over, so he's like 15 minutes ago. i guess its not too far, but since we are only in 8th grade we can't just drive to each other. i usually see him alot but this summer i havent seen him that often. my friends always say we shouldn't go out because we don't see each other alot my he isn't friends with alot of my friends, because he doesnt know them. but i really do like him.WHAT SHOULD I DO?! (link)
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aww. well i`m very happy you have a boyfriend. there's nothing wrong with relationships like that. i mean i'd even take one with someone who lived an hour away. if you love him, that's all that matters. & if you don't see him too often, make plans with him. if you can't, IM him or call him. tell him you miss him. & try to make a plan where you guys go on a date & bring along your friends so they can meet him. if you like him, they're gonna like him. & if they don't, i bet you`d make them. lol. but don't break up with him cause of the 15 minutes. because true love could wait forever. that's what i think anyway. & sometimes distance makes you love & miss them more, so when you see them, you cherish the moment. it's special like that. hope i helped & good luck.
♥ Julie
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my friend is dealing with anorexia. she was in the hospital for a while;; but now she's out. i`m really happy she's home;; but all her problems are still there. she recently had her bday and said a good present would be not to have to eat for the day. she`s one of my best friends, and she trusts me so she always calls me when she has a bad day. i`m glad she can trust me, but hearing about "bad days" makes it really hard to deal with. it hurts, really badly. she's so down on herself, and it kills me. i hate to see her like this. have any advice?? (link)
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awww. well i hope for the best for your friend. but does she see a doctor or anything? not just for physical health, but for mental health, because anorexia is part that. & for some, therapy does help. it's not just for "crazy people". lol. but the most a friend can do is either be brave & try to tell her how you feel or tell someone else about it who can do something to help her. you shouldn't have to deal with it, & neither should she. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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my friends and i used to be close as anything! well then one friend moved away, another friend is going to a diff. high school, and the other friend and shes going to the same high school as me..her and i were soo close and everything but then she started hanging out more with the girl that is going to a diff. school and they totally forgot about me. i am making new friends which is a good thing--but what am i supposed to do about them..i love my girls with all my heart but i just cant handle being the third wheel anymore..it never used to be like this! ugh please help julie!! (link)
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awwwwwwww. =[ well my advice is, don't let them do that. talk to them. tell them how you feel. call them. make a HUGE effort to talk to them. make plans with them. make you guys have as much together time as possible. maybe it won't be as much as you used to have, but enough to keep your friendship in line. hope i helped.
♥ Julie
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hey julie, well im going into the 8th grd, and i have two "friends" and they lie and talk about me behind my back, and i have asked them to quit but they say ok lets be friends and then they do it again, i dont wanna say were not friends, cuz then i'll be lonely in the 8h grade, help me please! (link)
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woa. that's rude. i had friends like that. but i just kinda grew apart from them. just like ignored them. & made new friends. they're not your friends if they do that. & if they're not gonna stop, just don't hang out with them. you`ll make new friends next year. there's gotta be some nice people at your school. & if not, you decide;; hang out with a bunch of fakes & liars or walk around the halls alone until you find someone new. i`d choose the 2nd one. it's not always bad to be alone either. & u prob won't be that long. i wasn't. hope i helped!
♥ Julie
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Hi...ok so I'm moving in the summer, and all my old friends think I'm gonna forget them. I don't think I will, but now I feel like I shouldn't make any new friends!! What do I do? (link)
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well, keep in contact with your old friends through IM's. write them letters [everyone likes that]. talk on the phone [if they're not too far away]. make new friends. it's ok to have a bunch of different friends from different places & if you care about them enough, you won't forget about it. just keep in contact so you don't lose the friendships & can prove you remember your old friends.
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