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my best friend is the most amazing person in the world.. i sometimes put her first in my life.. and people think i am obsessed with her.. how can i prove 2 them that i really am NOT obsessed with her..

Well the first problem is that you are putting her first in your life. There are other people out there too! She can be your best friend and be important but balance it all out a little! If you need more advice you can IM me or ask more questions.
.*Jane

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I feel used. What am i supposed to do?

Awww sweety idk who you are but you don't deserve to be used! Tell me some more... who is using you and for what? Whoever it is is NOT worth your time. Send me an IM and we can talk more okay? janejane1006 or omgimjane
.*Jane

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ok i have this friend and she is a really good friend but lately she has been really mean to me. she always ditches me and acts like she doesnt want to be around me she even tells me that. i do nothing to her but she is so mean to me, i just dont know what to do. :'(

Well I guess I'm not the best person to be answering this because I've been like this to some people in the recent past (which I regret a LOT) So Natalie can add advice to this one. I'd say she's probably just meeting new people and experimenting around, which can be hurtful, I understand. It's not a very nice thing for her to do, but there isn't a lot you can do. Just try (I know its tough) to deal with the way she is, because it's hard to change the way someone thinks and acts. Good luck! Sorry I couldn't help very much.
.*Jane


I can relate to how you feel, and it is hard to deal with. The only thing i can ever do is just let it go. Say hi to the person more often and talk to them more. You can even talk to the person about how you used to always have fun together. Try to remind them how much you like being their friend and how they mean alot to you. If they ditch you then try to let it go. Like Janey said, you can't really change the person.. i'm sorry.
.*Natalie

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K.. I'm a girl and I have this guy friend that OBVIOUSLY thinks he's cool or something. Seriously, his ego is enormous. When we're alone of course he's cool, and I love him to death, but sometimes I want to kill him because he really does think he's cool. And I'm not just saying that he thinks he's cool, because everyone else agrees. How do I tell him to lay off of himself?

Most guys are like that. They try to show off, and it does get on girls nerves. If his ego is big then next time he does something like that, you just need to tell him to stop or lay off. After you tell him that a couple of times he'll start understand that you really mean it.
.*Natalie

OH I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL! I have some guy friends like that and like Natalie said, guys are just like that! Don't take it personally, it probably just makes him feel better about himself. The best thing would probably be to not compliment him too much and boost his ego... that would only make him more self-centered!
.*Jane

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i am a guy, i have a twin sister, she tells her friends to hate me and don't talk to me, and then if i become friends with someone and she becomes friends with them, they start to not like me because she tells them not to and stuff like that, what can i do to stop all this?

You should spend more time with those friends without your sister. You can talk to them more or invite them somewhere outside of school. Do what you can to become better friends with them. You can do things with them despite what your sister says. Just try to ignore her if she gets mad at you for making new friends. Do what you can to become better friends with them.
Natalie*.

I think I know who this is... lol... well all I can say is you need to be friends with these people anyways! I mean, what's the worst thing your sister can do to you?
Look, I know your sister really well and she is a really sweet person. I know you don't think that because you're her brother, but she is really a cool person. Of course you will fight with her and there will be tension, thats how siblings work! So just try to forget the tension and go on being yourself with your friends.
GOOD LUCK!
.*Jane

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What do you do if you are a 13 year old guy who was really good friends with this one girl then one day she gets all moody and starts hating you and won't tell you what you did or forgive you no matter what you do, what am i supposed to do?

Well this girl probably just feels like she needs some space. If she was good friends with you at first, she probably thinks you're really cool but something is holding her back. Maybe you should keep it to a low until it all picks itself back up!
Girls will be moody, and that's obviously hard for guys to understand, but you need to try your best to handle it right.

Best of luck!
.*Jane

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