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I have been friends with this girl, I'll call Katie for like 15 years. But for the last 4 years she has become an overbearing and often embarrassing persence. Katie often guilts people into doing things they don't want too. Shes an only child and has always gotten her way or has lied to get it. Katie is extrememly outgoing, Oh and did I mention she was outgoing. She is very large breasted and gets a lot of attention from guys. Which doesn't bother me because she and I have different taste in men. Lately though I've noticed she often lies to me, which she never used to. She also tells things about me to others that are outright lies. I am shocked and have asked her about what she says but she somehow comes up with some weird explanation. I have stopped telling her anything I don't want everyone to know. She also often chastises, me for doing the same things she does. Katie also gets jealous when I hang out with other friends and often makes her distaste for my other friends very obvious. I almost want to cut her off completely. Should I or should I try to find out what has gotten into her?

Just flat-out stop hanging out with her. She's a terrible friend and you shouldn't have to put up with her. I've had bad friends like that, and I used to be very forgiving, but they'd just hurt me again. She's saying stuff behind your back and lying to you, two of the worst things a person could do to someone. It sounds harsh, but you have to cut her off, or else she'll just keep hurting you.

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I'm not really a social person, even though I do like having friends. The problem is that sometimes they call me up and I just don't feel like going out, and they get all insulted about the fact that I'd rather curl up with a book than party with them. I have a lot more "me" time than the average person, and I like it that way, but they don't get it. I've lied to them about other stuff going on but feel bad about that. How can I tell them I'm not in a going out mood without hurting their feelings?

Maybe you don't know the feeling. You should go out more, instead of hanging out at home. Too much alone time is bad for you!

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What's a good way to meet new people?

Some good places are dances, raves (if you're old enough), the mall, and school, definitely.

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