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I had a big fight with my best friend (Or 'ex best friend'...?) and she said she was done. We've had fights like this before, but it felt different. Well she said a lot of stuff, including that she's done with me and our friendship.
Well, about 2 days later, she texts me and says she's sorry. It seemed kind of weird. She said that she really honestly is sorry and that she didn't mean it, but can I trust this? She means a LOT to me and I've kind of been sad these past few days, but what if it's a trick? (link)
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You are hurt. She made you feel awful with everything she said when she was upset. You feel let down and betrayed. You have the right to feel this way, so don't feel bad.
You can tell her that you can't accept her apology right now. That you feel let down and that you need some time. When you are ready you will let her know. Then take it day by day.
When you are ready talk to her and let me know how you feel.
Hope you girls can get back to how things were.
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When me and my girlfriend met we were both very slim and fit. We watched what we ate and were always at the gym. We also used to make fun of the fat people in our group of friends.
We have been living together for years now (since graduation) and the scale has risen and so have our thighs. I have got a big potbelly now, and her buttocks have gotten huge. I guess it's just overindulgence in the sweets (cakes and pies on dates, donuts with our feet up watching TV).
Bottom line, though, our friends from college (we all graduated 2 years ago and have been quite busy) invited us to wing night to reunite again (and it does sound fun). But, the last time they saw us we were wearing tight jeans, nice shoes on me, heels on her. Now, I wear sweatpants with socks and sandles, and my girlfriend wears stretch pants with slippers.
On top of that, they have all been dieting and spending time in the gym, so they all lost the weight.
So my question is: should we go to wing night, a night that involves eating messy food with your hands, when we both got fat? (even worse, we used to be the skinny couple that made fun of the fatties in the group), now I can barely button my pants, she complains that she can't see her slippers when she looks down, and we both are out of breath, grabbing our knees after we go up a few stairs.
I just dont want the people who know us as the "fitness elitists" to see us walk in slowly, breathing heavily. Not to mention, the sight of us sitting with a pile of wings, with sauce all over ourselves, eating with our hands.
I also feel bad for my girlfriend because one of our friends whose weight my girlfriend joked about a lot, will be there, and she too has lost it all. It doesn't seem fair that she should be able to watch her pig out on a sloppy meal.
So, should we go? (link)
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Sorry to hear you and your girlfriend have gained a lot of weight. Just think that life is that way. We loose some, we gain some. It might be due to you both making fun of the overweight people or just not taking care of your bodies. Is their a reason you both stopped eating well and working out? Is their something going on with you both that made you loose interest on your health?
As for the invite, my advice is to go if you think you'll enjoy yourselves. Don't worry on what others might think, just think will we have fun. Your friends if they are good friends won't judge but understand. If they behave incorrectly, then you know where your friendship stands.
Don't be hard on yourselves. Yes, you have gained weight but you can loose it. Instead of spending plenty of time on the couch, go out for a walk. Any exercise will help, as long as you continue doing it. And your eating habits should change too.
Hope you have a great time if you decide to go.
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