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okay, i've been 'best friends' with this girl for 3 years now and we're really close! but i sometimes feel we only talk, and i mean really talk when theres something wrong in one of our lives. and i was just wondering if thats normal, i mean like, do quite a lot of 'best friends' act like just friends until theres a time when they really need each other?

It is this way for me, too. I think it is normal, because the only time you need to talk "seriously" is when something is wrong. You don't talk seriously about the flavor of ice cream you're thinking about getting at Baskin Robbins. Other topics that you can talk seriously about are issues surrounding boys and maybe problems in the family. Don't worry, this is totally normal.
Since you guys have been friends for so long you guys have probably already talked about EVERYTHING. So you might just be all talked out. You might want to just venture out and make new friends or invite other girls into your circle of friends to get more variety in your talks.

Hope I helped and good luck! :)

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so i became really close to this girl jen (shes like 6 years older. she came down here for the weekend over the summer and i talked to her about everything. then over the winter she worked like crazy and i didnt talk to her much. so i almost feel like she didnt want to talk to me but idk why. i miss it but now we dont talk (she hasnt been online and if i was gonna text her i just dont know what to say) like before we could talk for hours and keep a conversation going but the last time we talked online it was a dud. same with the last time i texted her so i dont know what changed. why cant i talk to her like i used to. im almost afraid to talk to her (maybe im afraid she doesnt want to talk to me) i wanna start talking to her again but how can i get back to the way we were? what should i say in a text or aim...

You should explain your feelings to her and see how she feels. The best way to handle situations like this is express yourself and honestly. That way you can clear the air and really get down to it. Instead of texting her you should call her, which would show how serious you are about improving your relationship. Talking online or in text messages is not the best method and is an easy way to send the wrong message and confuse things.

Call her and be honest.
Hope I helped and good luck! :)

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Me and my bff Sami are so close and I want us to find someone that is perf. for us to create kind of like a clique,but not really really mean or anything. If you've heard of the book The Clique Series by Lisi Harrison that'd help cuz I want it to be like that!

If you are looking for another person to add to your "twosome" then I would advise against it unless you are looking to add more then just one person. Threesome groups never work out. There is always one person that feels left out.
But if you really want to go forth with it, then you could do these steps:

001. talk to everyone around you and just be nice everyone you come across. that way you can gradually become friends with more and more people which might encourage them to come to your "group"
002. join a club or sport, that way you can sort of join into another cliche

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