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last year i lost a rgoup of friends. i met other ppl and i loved my new friends. now they left me and i have no idea why. they tell me that i was bitchy and that i hurt them and that i needed to change and be nice and love them. i do love them and i know i was a bithc and i know i need to change but i cant do it without them helping me. i am hurt and i cant stop crying. i love them all so much but they left. i dont know what to do.

i seriosly know how you feel. why do you need to change? if they don't like who you are, and they want you to change, are they your real friends? if your other friends are this way too, maybe you really need to seek people that really won't judge you. hope this helps!

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i am currently living with ym best freind. been that way for a month and a half. recently her fiance came back from out of the country and is living there now too. well i have been looking for a job but in my small town, jobs are hard to find. i have looked everyday and everyplace and still nothing. but the past 2 weeks she and i have been jumping down each others throats. every little thing and one of us flips out. like she flipped b/c ravioli stained aplastic bowl and i put soap and water in it so it WOULDNT stain but it still did and hse said it was my fault. so its a constant thing. and watching her and her fiance, they run around the house making out and have no respect for me at all in teh house. they run around grabbing each others "private parts" for lack of better words. and i am fed up with them having no respect for me at all. and when i confront her about what is bothering me (them making out bothers me b./c my boyfreind is currently out of state with his family.) she gest all defensive and says "its my house, i will do what i want i dont care. when your in love you wont carew what others think." so i cant get anywhere b.c she will coem back with its her house. so i dont know what to do i am backed into a corner. i mean granted my boyfreind wants me to move in with him in new york with his family...but i am not sure i want to give up my family...what should i do?

It would probaly be best to choose the road that won't have you as stressed. You should just move to New York. If your friend has no care for your feellings at all and is constantly yelling at you, are they the best friend choice?

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