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Hi, I'm trying to get rid of my my unsociable, indifferent, freshman reputation, and hopefully make some close friends this upcoming year. I would like to know some ways I might be able to change people's perception of me. I guess I come off as withdrawn and slightly angry, so this may come off as a difficult question for those of you "popular people", who are able to make friends easily. My main purpose is to make friends in order actually look forward to going to school in the morning... For your information, I am 15 and male. (link)
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I have the feeling you're more of an introvert than extrovert. I'm the same way, except that I don't go out of my way to figure out how I can change other people's perception about me. Unless everyone is being hostile or cold to you, then maybe it's something serious you should look into. Being the popular one isn't the way to go nor should you change just because popularity gets more friends. Most guys and girls are superficial nowadays, it's all about what the new look is or how much attention can I get for doing something stupid. The thing that you must change is how you perceive yourself. If you look in the mirror and are unhappy with what you see, or if you walk around day after day with feelings of sadness and insecurities, figure out why that is. Sometimes change is good, whether it's getting new clothes or cool hairstyle, but in the end that doesn't matter because what needs to change is the inside. People will take notice even if you are withdrawn yet still maintain a level of confidence. If you notice someone with the same interests, take advantage of that opportunity. Also, whenever you have a chance, spend some time alone and take a step back from reality. Look inward, look what's around you, and think positive. Changing how you think is probably the best way to change your behavior.
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