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ok so heres how it went.

my bff is kind of spoiled and high strung. she has mega high expectations for guys.

anyways..she was going out with this guy thats sooo nice and cute and just the perfect bf for her cause he was nice and she was a bitch and they "completed eachother".

but then she broke up with him because she said he was to clingy. like a week after that me and her ex started talking and i told him i was sorry about what my bff did to him and we just started to talk and now i really like him and im pretty sure he likes me too.

so is it ok to date him? my bff doesnt know we've been talking to eachother. what should i do should i act on it or just break it off? should i tell my bff?
any answers great.
thankyou

the best thing to do in this type of situation, almost always, is to TALK TO YOUR FRIEND. find out if she still likes him, how she would feel about you being with him. after a week, i'm guessing she won't be too happy but you never know unless you talk to her. not talking to her and just trying to get with the guy will just cause problems and she'll most likely be mad. so talk to her about it, even if you don't get what you wanna hear, trust me it'll be better that way.

hope i helped :)

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I have regular fights with my best friend and she really annoys me most of the time. She's just not really me if you know what i men anyway she was typing some mean thing in an im box and she wasn't gonna send it but i sent it and now that guy got mad at her, and DUH she's mad at me. But secretly like I said I've been wanting to do something so bad to her alot worse than that and wat she was doing then was fine its just payback for every single time she hurt me or made me hate her. I really wish she just wouldn't be my friend.

But the problem is called spheres of influence. She's one of those really popular girls and I already have rumors (fake rumors) and fake gossip about me with her as an enemy she will spread more stuff and honestly i would have no friends. none. and although for me it's fine i don't like anyone thats in her group, but her group is basically the school. and it will be a problem when im back just walking from class to class no talking. Im sorry this is long my life is just messed up right now and I need to start making right decisions on stuff andif u read this hope fully you can help me.

well this girl definitely doesn't sound like someone i would wanna be "best friends" with. but with the whole rumor starting and everything i think it would be best for you to stay friends, just not as good as you are now. if people don't like you just cause you're not friends with her that's dumb, but i guess you just have to deal with the fact that people can be really stupid.


good luck♥♥

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allright, i have all guy friends. Im not a tom boy and they dont think of me as "one of the guys". I dont find this weird and neither do my parents, they understand that i just like them better. But at school im considered a slut. I dont do that much with these friends of mine, anything sexual i mean. Yes, dont get me wrong, i have done stuff with them, but i wouldnt consider it slutty. And to top it all off, the girls all think that i am a bitch. I think they feel threatend cause im prettier then they are. Also my friends are really shallow. They dont talk to girls who arent pretty, and they compare all the girls to me.. ghay i know. I've had friends that where girls, but i just found them really stuck up and catty, guys just like to have a good time i guess. Im not saying that i wouldnt like girl friends, cause i am kind of longing for someone to talk about boys to. But, I'm happy with having 6 (extremly hot) guy friends that i do everything with. They even come with me shopping. Lol i get nasty looks from some of the girls in the mall. I think its funny. But how do i get people to stop calling me a slut and a bitch. Im pretty happy with evrything. And how do i get a good girl friend that doesnt want to be friends with me because of my guy friends ?

i don't think you sound slutty at all, and your "friends" sound dumb. haha all those girls just sound jealous, let them think what they want. but, you might wanna hang out with your friends who are girls more often, to maybe cut down on people calling you a slut so much, and maybe try being nicer to other girls because you might seem like a bitch to them even though you don't feel that you are.

:) hope i helpeddd

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Okay, I really like this guy whos my friend. We've been friends for about ummm lets see a year now. Hes been looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking. Okay, and I'll do the same. I'm pretty sure he likes me since all my friends say so. If he does what do I do. He has a girlfriend. But it doesn't seem like he likes her. Sooo what do I do?

k so, from what you've said here, he likes youuu! but of course he has a girlfriend. maybe talk to him about it, but at the same time you don't wanna just go and break them up. give him time, i'm sure they won't last long. you've been friends for this long and he seems to be showing the signs of liking you, i'm sure it'll work out :)

good luckk!

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soo, today, this kid whos like super popular, but i dont really know, asked me out. and i was yano excited, obviously. but i didnt know what to say, because i dont know him too well. and i like to get to know people, before i date them.

but anyways, i was all excited to tell one of my friends, well, one of my best friends, about it. and shes like.. well can this wait? im playing a game. and i was like.. you dont wanna hear about it? its hugeee. and shes like, one second. and so i was kinda just kidding when i said this, i was like fine =P if my love life isnt that important then who cares. =P. and shes like, yeah i know, glad you realize that, kayy brb! and i was like.. wtff.

and so right now im not talking to her.
but, i know that sounds kinda stupid, to get mad over that kinda thing, but shes one of those people who, talk behind alot of peoples back, doesnt care if your mad at her, and says whatever sshe wants. and alottt of people dont like her. but i always have. but now, idno. because she probably talks about me, because she talks about everyone else.

and i cant really talk to her, because like i said, she just doesnt care.

so basically, should i ditch her? or what?

k well first of all, congrats on being asked out by that kid! & i agree with you on getting to know someone before dating them.

about your friend, i don't know her personally so i don't know if she's the type to kid around or say stuff to be mean. if she was kidding, then there's no reason to be mad. but by the way you described it, it seems like she's not too great of a friend. talk to her about it and give her another chance, though, and if she does it again then ditch her.

good luck ! :]

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