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Location: Long Island, New York
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Age: 21
Member Since: January 2, 2007
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my friend was shot and killed on december 18 and i cant seem to get her out of my head its upseting me horribly what are ways to help (link)
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I am so sorry to hear of the tragic death of your friend. The best thing to do at this point is to find ways to honor her memory while at the same time moving forward with your own life. If you don't do this already, I recommend writing down the thoughts and feeling you are experiencing and sharing these feelings with others who knew her. Such a senseless death is certain to be a shock, and you shouldn't try to repress the feelings you are now experiencing. However, it may help to find some activity that will allow you to take your mind off of the images of her death that are likely causing you such pain. Know that even though she has physically left you, she will always have a place in your heart, and nothing can take aware the memories you both shared.
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i used to be the most awkward kid in my school, but i really really REALLY changed over the summer. and i'm starting to make friends with people so that's good, but the thing is everyone's already like best friends with each other, while i'm just an okay friend. so when all the best friends are together and the okay friend comes along, i'm kind of left out in the conversation (not really intentionally..it just happens). and i can't just force myself into it uninvited because, come on if you and your bff were talking and this random girl started intruding you'd be annoyed too right? so i'm not sure what to do, but i know i really really really need to find a good friend at school fast, because i feel as if i have no true friends at my school. =/ help!? (link)
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Making friends can be more of a challenge when it seems as if everyone is separated into cliques with what seems like a set in stone arrangement of friends. However, the best thing to do right now is be friendly, be yourself, and don't try to hard to make a best friend. If you present yourself as a kind, interesting, and confident person, you are sure to make friends fast. Also, it may not be so bad to be a 'floater' right now. This allows you to be friends with many different people without feeling limited by a certain set of close friends. Give it time, and you will most likely be able to retain this wider group of friends as well as develop deeper friendships with a few of these people. Best of luck!
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