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Hiii. :)
My friend Kristen, she's a hostess at a Mexican restaurant called Mario's. She asked me if I wanted to apply there, because the managers wanted to have two hostesses. & I of course said yes. I only work Fridays & Saturdays, and obviously Kristen would be my trainer.
She's a really good friend of mine & I thought taking this job would be AWESOME, because we don't really have to work that much, but we'll get money for it, and it seemed EASY.
Yesterday was my second day, and the entire time she was bitching and complaining about how bad I was at hostessing, and how I should quit. She kept telling our manager that she had told me a dozen times of how to do something, whenever she hadn't even told me once.
She kept saying she was kidding, but the entire time it ruined like my self esteem and I felt like crap because she would yell at me and ignore me when I had a question. I kept telling her to stop being mean because I wasn't doing anything wrong, but she just continued doing it.
Now, I'm completely confused on where to go from there, what should I do? I want to quit, every inch of me is telling me to do it, but I can't get a job anywhere else.
Please help! (:
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Start off by talking to Kristen. Let her know that you were really excited about having a job and working with her but since you started, she's been acting differently. I worked with my (ex)girlfriend for about 6 months and eventually it started stressing the relationship. She thought I was taking the job to seriously, I thought she was too chill. Let her know that it's definately not cool to make you look bad in front of your boss, even if she's joking around. The impression you make now at your first job will follow you forever, so don't let her screw up your image. If she can't start respecting you, talk to the manager. If it still causes problems, quit. Other jobs will come along.
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Okay well 14/f. My best friend in the entire world has been being REALLY mean to me lately. I'm thinking that she's jealous, but I don't understand why...She is only mean when we are around other people usually, and I've noticed she always makes herself look better than me in all situations. She always says mean comments and does things to put me down, but that's only when we are hanging around with our group of friends. When we are alone or on the phone, she's nice to me. Online,she makes fun of my guy friends because they are apparently "dorky" to her, so she was making fun of them. I was really angry at her and I confonted her online first after she made the comments about my friends. I told her "why are you saying that about them?" she said "I don't know, I thought you didn't like them" I said "well, they are my friends, just like you are. So please don't talk bad about them, even if you don't like them". I think she got the point because she appologized. But now today in lunch at school, she bragging about herself and then making comments about how I don't have what she has. It was mostly about material items, which I could care less about.
I really don't want to stop being friends with her. I love her to death. She's been my best friend for so long, and I really have more fun with her than anyone. She's like a sister to me and I don't want to lose her.
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You will tend to notice, as you get older, that the friends that have been your friends "your whole life" start drifting away. That may not be the case here, however. It sounds to me like she's just been in a bad mood lately. Talk it over with her. Let her know how much she means to you as a friend. You have plenty of time to fix this.
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ok well some of my freinds have started to act like im not there. and well they would tell me everything and now they tell me nothing. my ? is ... should i just stop hanging aroud them???? help (link)
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Don't just "give up" on them. Friends are the people who will get you through this life when no one else understands. Approach one of them individually and just say "Hey, what's up?" Try to get them to tell you why they've had this sudden change of heart. Chances are, you can fix this by talking it out. After all, saying something can't be any worse than not saying anything.
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