21/f I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now with no problems, except my boyfriend's crazy cousin. At the beginning of our relationship we got close, then she became a little crazy and always seems to have a problem. Long story short I drifted away from her a bit after a few freak outs she had on me for no reason; now it's extremely uncomfortable to be around her since we don't talk as much. Recently she invited my boyfriend out to a party in front of me and didn't mention inviting me at all, something she would have talked to me about had we been closer like before. It really upsets me, and my boyfriend agrees she's very rude. Should I talk to him about confronting her behavior? Or have him say something to her? She's just blatantly rude to me. Thanks!
Honesty what I would do is ask her yourself. You're 21 years old so you are old enough to confront someone yourself without having to ask someone to do it for you. I would message her via facebook, text her, call her, or the next time you see her pull her aside and ask if you guys can talk. From there, you can either ask her if something is wrong or if you might have done something to upset her. The whole thing seems a little odd. If she always seems to have a problem maybe something is going on in her life and "freaking out" is the only way she can deal with it. She might just need someone to ask her if she is okay or if there is anything that she would like to talk or vent about.
Asking her yourself shows that you care about her, your relationship with her, and whats going on. It shows that you want to get that relationship back to how it was or at least to the point where you don't have to be uncomfortable around her.
She may also feel bad about freaking out on you but she knows that you are upset about it and it makes you uncomfortable so she doesn't know if she should apologize or talk to you about it.
Like I said, being the bigger person and asking her whats wrong or if you did anything proves that you still want her to be in your life. Have a mature, adult conversation. Don't yell or argue or play the blame game and I'm almost certain you two can get back to the friendship you had if not an even better one.
If that doesn't seem to be working then you can ask your boyfriend to calmly talk to her and see if he can figure out why this is happening. Again, he needs to be mature about it and not yell at her because it could make matters worse and you don't want that.
Remember, you should ask her first because it shows that you still care and want a friendship. :)
Hope this helps you & everything works out.
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Am I the only one who gets tired of writing the same old thing in birthday cards? Do you know of any really good birthday related quotes of famous people or really wise sayings I can write in there instead?
I always like to write things from the heart or if I feel like I'm writing the same ideas I go to the store and look at the cards and gather some ideas.
I found this website and it has a bunch of different birthday topics to choose from.
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website: http://www.birthdaymessages.com/
I hope this helps you!
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My friend is scared of her dad
To help your friend we are going to need more information on this. I'm sorry.
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