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My boyfriend is out of town, so I'm spending time with new and old friends for a change. Well, I'm quickly beginning to remember why I stopped hanging out with people. Guys always make plans with me, but then I get left for other people often.

I'm attractive, but I feel like I don't have the personality to match. I can be a little boring, I'll admit. I don't want to change who I am, but I do want to be able to relate to people better. My parents always question why my plans get changed so much, I hate admitting to myself that I'm not as wanted as I used to be. People used to love being around me, I was so outgoing. Now, I'm just so annoyed by many people that I can be a drag to be around. How do I get the old me back?

oh honey I am in the same boat.
I suggest going on vacation. or just out to your local dance club/bar(age permitting) or find out when there's local bands playing. Local band shows are always a great way to meet new people.
I'm not saying get new friends. just Meeting new people seems to be theraputic in a way. and when you're out, let loose. don't be a whore. but just let your guard down talk to strangers.
I have learned a hell of a lot from strangers. People I will never see again. So I could be as crazy as I wanted. or chilled or pretend to be different for a while.
Just getting out of the house and around new people works wonders on building personality. it gives you stories to share when you get back home and chat with your friends. And you get pretty comfortable with meeting people.

♥Webby

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I hate it when girls look at me like a teddy bear and not dating material. Like they pat me on the hea and stuff. How do I make myself seem more mature or whatever

I too am small. and I get things like that from guys a lot, not so much the teddy bear look, but the little sister one. Just, be yourself, you know, don't let it get to you so much. Or if you're good at something, athletics, playing guitar/drums/something, singing, .. whatever, I don't want to say flaunt it, that wouldn't be good. but Make it known. Achieve something and let people know about it without Throwing it in their face every time you're talking to someone. Am I making sense? I hope I am.
Yeah. People tend to treat you as a bigger person when they know your accomplishments.

Hope I helped
~Webby

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I playfully punched my guy friend on the cheek. Now he keeps saying it hurts, and I should kiss it. Thing is, I really like him, but Ii'm super nervous to kiss it, even though he keeps telling me to. I want to, I'm just nervous. How can I work myself up to do it?!

haha something similar happened to me, with my buddy Timmy. except it was his butt and I didn't hurt it... and he wanted me to massage, it not kiss it.
.. Ok so its not extremely similar, but its relative. Anyway, I really didn't want to, cause thats kindof weird, and I was embarrased cause I do like him.. Basically It was thinking 1..2..3*sigh* "Ok. Fine, You Strange little bastard"
basically, be playful like "Ugh. You're so helpless *Peck on the cheek*"
And it works, He still has no clue. except I would imagine that a kiss on the cheek would be much less awkward than massaging my friend's butt in public.

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If you and a guy you like are hanging out at your house, what are some ways you can get him to hold your hand without actually telling him?

when he's sitting on a couch or whatever, sit next to him and when you sit, put your hand in his. Then just look at him and start chatting.

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