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heyy. im lori and im 16. i am currently in senior high school but i can give really good advice if i know what im doing. feel free to ask me anything: love life, sex, friendship, school (im a straigt A student btw), health, music (i play guitar, piano, violin, and i love to sing), etc. hope to help you guys out! :p

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Fourteen Female.
Okay so I hadn't seen Benamin since Friday and he wanted to see me, and my parents were out and still aren't home so I was like come over it'll be fun.
Well we were ust hanging out, like usual. Were friends, that yeh a little bennifits but it's just fun [[and no nothing below the belt.]]
Well Friday night I got Breaking Dawn-- an amazing book and we weren't doing much so I started reading it while sitting in the recliner chair. So he started messing with me and was like "Your such a nerd- only you would read with ME in the room." Which is true, a lot of girls in my school like him.. and like obsess.. =X
so he climbed on me, and tried taking the book away and he had my legs pinned with his knees and I dont know how it happened. He leaned and started kissing my neck.. and stuff. Kind of groping\grinding me. This is the furthest this has ever gone. We do kiss but its just joking. or just to me.. And a lot of people have been telling me to date Ben but he's just a friend but he's amazing and I was hoping to feel something for him but I couldn't.
So I let things get out of hand, letting it happen when all of sudden he jumped off me and ran for the bathroom. To say the least I was scared i did something wrong... hurt him. Or or something.
ten minutes later.. when he came out he was so red. And I didnt know why. He just started apoligising. "Katie, Im so so so sorry. I can't believe that happened. It wont happen again.. I swear." Just rambaling. And I was like What happened? he looked at me like I was on crack and I sorta wish he never told me. He was like. "Katie... I just got.. hard on you."
----MEH!
He left very sortly after that and I've tried talking to him because his friend Ralph called and was like duude.. you need to talk to him I swear he's gunna get a vasectame he's so embarressed.
=X I feel horrible. I could have stopped it before that happened and Ive been trying to talk to him. To explain it's not that big of a deal.. and he wont listen.
Is it normal for boys my age to.. get hard that easy? I don't know what these means. I mean im friends with him, close but. Ahh. I don't want Ralph making fun either... Can you help getting hard? I donno.. how can I make this right?

umm.. im pretty sure it's normal for teens. my parents always used to tell me that i shouldnt be alone with a guy too long. thye jsut can thelp it..... :|.

anyway, good luck!

lori 16/f

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Hi--

Well, let's get right to the point. My mom and I are going shopping in August soon for back to school shopping, and I REALLY want my best friend to come. But, there's only one problem. My family doesn't really like her parents... We went shopping a couple years ago together for Halloween, and her mom ended up coming, and the whole time it was a disaster. She was dragging her around the store, she wouldn't let her buy certain things, and in the end they actually ended up doing they're OWN shopping. And, anyways, my mom said she could only come if my best friend's mom DIDN'T. So, now, my best friend called me up awhile ago asking if it was OK if her mom came to pay for her stuff if she couldn't afford some things... and I REALLY don't want her mom to come, because we are going into 8th grade for Chrissake, and I really DON'T want her mom to come, because she won't let us go to certain stores, which is TOTALLY unfair. So, I have no idea what to do. I love my BFF to DEATH, but... I don't know what to say to her! Please help me!

well... if i were you, i would let her mom come. your mom's coming too right? great. (lol) there could be two ways of solving this problem.

solution 1: have your mom talk to your bff's mom. ask your mom to tell her about your annoyance with her. adults should get along pretty well and chances are, she'll listen to your mom. but that's taking a huge risk of losing her mom's friendship.

solution 2: go shopping alone wiht your bff and have both your moms go to starbucks or something. have them both together and let you guys shop alone. then when it's time to pay for whatever you can't afford, call them and meet up. and again, if her mom disagrees with anything, have your mom talk to her. that way, she wont be mad at you and you'll still have your bff. let your mom do the talking. im pretty sure she'll want to.

hope at least one of these ideas work. i did the best i can. tell me what happened as your feedback ok? i really wanna know.
good luck

lori 16/f (sry its so long)

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