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Q: so me and my bff dated the same guy, she went with him the day after i did and they broke up so now its a new year and she was at my house talking to him on the phone and she wouldn't tell me what they were talking about... so i think they are getting back together and i dont want them to because he is a cheater and she gets hurt and falls too hard for him too easily and its ahppened before but now she is not taking my advice...well if they ever "youknow" i hope she makes a "mistake" and learns a lesson you kno? gets pregnant because she's the kind of girl that will happen to but how can i seriously talk her out of it a better way than i try?....
13-14 female...

being her friend yu dont need to talk her out of it...yu need to be there for her an just make sure when she gets hurt that yu are that shoulder to cry on. yall are young an your goin to get hurt...yu cant avoid it cuz its goin to happen whether yu like it or not. yu just have to know that when it happens yu can cry an be depressed about it for a lil while but then yu need to get up an move on wit your life an learn from your mistakes. yu need to look at the situation with your friend positively. hes makin her happy an puttin a smile on her face. he may be a cheater but she will find that out on her own. if yu try to talk her out of it shes goin to feel like yu arent bein much of a friend. sometimes yu just have to let ppl do wut they want to do.

Q: okay this guy likes me back he told me but he also told me he doesnt really want to date right now and he said he was sorry...
whats that supose to mean?
will we ever go out or what?
should i still hang out with him and like him?
or am i waisting ym time with him. i really like him...

i think yu shud still be friends an hang out with him. yu never knw..maybe he just needs to get to knw yu better before he makes a choice on whether to date yu or not. BUT...at the same time...i wudnt make him a priority...if theres other guys out there that yu like too them yu can also spend time wit them cuz maybe he really dont want a relationship an he just enjoys bein friends. so always keep your options open but at the same time keep your eyes open...remember actions speak louder than words...if he sees yu hangin out with other guys an he seems to get jealous then maybe yu shud start spendin more time wit him an less time wit the others.

Q: i have a friend she's my best friend but she likes this guy who is also my friend the problem is that she doesn't like the fact that he only talks to her when im there i don't think its true but everyone tells me the same thing i got her to start texting him but it turned out worser was telling her what to tell him then out of nowhere he started texting me to at the same time i told her and she got mad she wants me to do things for her like make sure hes okay when he doesn't go to school but i don't like to because then she gets mad i just don't know what to do or say to her or to him so she wont get mad

let her knw yu not tryin to stalk the kid for her. if she wants to know then she needs to ask him herself. if he txs yu more than her oh well. she needs to get over it....yall are only friends. it seems like she barely talks to him an if yu gotta sit there an tell her wut to say then she dont need to be gettin mad cuz hes bored with her. maybe if she stepped her game up she wudnt be gettin mad an he wudnt stop txtin her an start txtin yu. idk...seems like shes shy when it comes to guys an she either needs to break out her shell or shes just gonna get her feelings hurt.

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