I'm 22 years old, just graduated from college, moved, and started a new job.
I'm dealing with a lot of self doubt and lack of direction, so I guess Freud would say I'm using this site to deal with these feelings.
I hope to use my interests in philosophy, psychology, and economics to give a holistic advice column and help someone out.
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17/m alright this is about a friend of mine...who is a bit wierd i guess. you see, she moved into my town a while ago and automatically people wouldnt accept her (and now i am beginning to see why) buti accepted her. NOW all she talks about is what she would do if she had a penis. she was over my house one time and out of no where she said "if i had a penis i would stick a needle and uncooked pasta into the hole of it" SHE WAS NOT JOKING. she even asked me if she could see mine to stick sometihing in mine and I FREAKED. is she like a transvestite wanna-be???? i am so wierded out..i want to end our friendship...ugh...what do i do? Please Help!! (link)
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My guess is she acts strange to get attention - in this case it seems obvious she wants attention from you, amigo!
My advice is - unless you think she's just too weird to handle - that you should help her understand she doesn't need to act like a freakazoid to be your friend. If you are negative toward her, it could catapult her farther into bizzaro world. So just casually ignore her antics and positively reinforce the cool traits that make her your friend.
(And remember, the great psychologist Sigmund Freud theorized that women are born with "penis envy". As in, they subconciously believe they were born with a penis but that it was somehow removed. Wild, eh!)
Good luck.
P.S. You might explain to her that, uh, it's not possible to stick things in there....
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This friend I used to be really close with all of a sudden treats me like I'm a stranger. When I talk to them, they respond briefly then turn away. It's worse than being a stranger, cuz my friend's can be pretty friendly with strangers, not cold and distant like lately. I try talking to them about this recent change but they get all defensive, so what am I supposed to do? I don't want to lose a friend =\ (link)
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People change, for better or worse. It seems to me that your friend is trying to change, and that their friendship with you isn't part of that package. I've had many friends who, whether dropping an old shared hobby or discovering pent-up emotions or whatever, decided that it is sometimes best to part ways.
If this person treats you like a stranger, chances are they want you to be a stranger. If they get defensive with you, then they're probably dealing with emotions they don't want to talk about for some reason.
All you can do is continue to respect and be friendly to him/her; if you are a good friend, then you'll keep the friends who matter. That's really all you can do.
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