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Im me. Thats it really, ive been throo a lot in my life and have been guided by a lot of very good people. So now i think its my duty 2 help other peiop,le in anyway, with anything. I mean it if u have nething 2 ask or 2 moan about im ure man, just ask me. I dnt make fun of ne problems or of ne1 with a genuine problem. So drop me a line if ya feelin like u need help!!

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I recently sent a few friends the link to this site. Since then I haven't heard from any of them and wondered what I had done to upset them. I can see they are on IM but they never answer. I go to a chatplace we all use and no ones talking. I came here to ask advice and now I find they have all joined and are busily handing out advice like it's on buy one get one free.

I have once again tried to talk to them to ask what's going on but I am still not getting any replies.

I am very concerned they have become addicted to being Agony Aunts/Uncles, and do worry that this may lead to them neglecting not only their friends but also their work and families.

I will feel really guilty if any of them end up getting fired from work for slacking off and then lose their house beacuse they can't make the repayments because they may then end up getting divorced and they won't be able to make the maintenance payments either and will probably end up living in a cardboardbox on the streets.

Am I a bad person for sending them the link in the first place? And how can I help them break this addiction before it goes too far?

The worse thing for u to do is blaim yourself. I mean u only sent the link, u didnt physically make them go onto it nor did u tell them that they shood register or anything like tht. So no u rnt 2 blaim. And i think tht(i know u sed u have tried) u dshood tlk 2 them about it., maybe face 2 face if possible. Coz obviously u r concerned about them, but it isnt ure fault remember that.
Tell them that ure concerned and tht ure worried for there livleyhood and there marriage etc. Mak youre cioncerns heard and try 2 advise them tht this is not a life time job its onnly part time. U know, but it isnt ure fault of course it isnt!! Yea u feel guilt for sending the link, but u only thot it wos a gd idea at the time and they have taken it 12 far. NOT U. So tlk it throo, tell them ya thots n feelings, and dnt worry!!!!!

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well..okay. i like this guy and he has a gf..oh wait. it gets better..haha well he's always leading me on and hinting that he likes me.. well i talked to his gf and she said she isn't really interested in him anymore. well what do you guys think? should i tell his gf(my friend) that i have feelings for him and if she doesnt have feelings for him then she should let go? or whatever else you guys think! please help!

I dont think u shood risk losing((if she is a good friend) a friend over a guy. I mean maybe she isnt interested anymore biut she may still like something about him, u know wot im sayin yea. Coz u dnt wna lose ya friend, no1 does. And it cood bcum worse, ure friend may jus go out of her wayu 2 b nasty and spitefu,l 2 u if she does have feelings 4 him and then 2 find out u do aswell. Hell she mite even string him alo ng 2 get at u. So i thiunk personally u shood ride it out until it does end with them 2 and then make a move. I mean how long wood u and him last? Im not beiong a cynic wot im saying is does he have feelings for u AND wood it work out. Coz dsay yea u spioke 2 ya friend n she ended it or wotever, n then uu go with this guy n he leaves u in the shi*, uve not lost him uve lost a friend!
anthony

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