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I'm never going to claim I know the correct answer, but I will tell you what I think is the right thing. And no matter what, I will respect that you asked for help, and want it. No unneccesarily cruel answers. No talking down to you. Just honesty and kindness.
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So I never dated this guy. We had hung out a few times but talked a ton before i meet my now ex boyfriend. Well we quit talking while I was seeing this new guy. (new guys rules) yeah stupid. Anyways we hung out after he and I broke up. Ended up having sex. like 3 times. Well i kind of stayed distant from him because I used to like him and feelings started to come back. Well I went over there one day to just talk because he asked me to and he started tickling me and pulling me on him so i told him i had to leave.. while i was walking out to my car he stopped me and gave me hug well he put his hand on my cheeck and kissed me and it got passionate.. well i dont mention to him i still like him well i went to his house today because we went to the adult store together long story. any ways we were watching jeff dunham and ended up having sex. what is this.. he knows i dont want friend with benefits but were like attracted to each other. when were togethers its just amazing. and we can talk about everything. (link)
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It doesn't sound like friends with benefits. I hate to say, but you like him, he seems to like you, you enjoy hanging out, have great sex... you may actually be in love, the both of you.
Of course, I don't know all details, but still, that's how I see it.
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SO,in my class im the ont who makes people laugh,who people look at when theyre sad,right.
(class clown sort of).And i love that making people laugh and so on, but sometime were doing a project and they will ask a question.like in general and i would answer it.I would be correct.But they would be like 'no your not right.' But in sure if it was any one else answered it they would have said it was right.
And on top of that , when they ask the teacher and she says in right they will be like 'oh for once she is right' no matter how many times im right.
THey are not bad people, but this leads me to believe that they so not take ne seriously.I do not just want to be the funny stupid girl.I want people to know i kinda have a brain.Need ur advice
xoxo....ME (link)
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Ah, the ol' "everyone thinks I'm just a clown, not serious" dilemma.
Well, honestly, the best advice I can give is this. Mix it up. Alternate between serious and humor.
Best advice to do that is simple. Get. The Best. Grades.
You can be funny all you want, but being funny, and with top marks, will make it clear you're no clown.
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There is Bob and Joe and me.
Bob is naturally curious about other people's business and he's been on Joe and my case since last year. Since last year, Joe and I have been close friends and he really liked me. I thought I liked him in that way, too, and went to a dance with him and gave him mixed signals. But now I really like him as a friend and nothing more. He asked me to homecoming and I declined saying that I didn't want to go to homecoming because it was crappy (which is completely true) but also because (this part I didn't say to him) I don't want to go to homecoming with him even as friends because he'll still get the wrong idea (even if I told him we'll go as friends)
Well in class, Bob was asking Joe how it went yesterday about asking me to homecoming. The room was pretty quiet and although they were on the other side of the room, I could hear parts of the conversation--enough to know that they were talking about me. So Joe was telling Bob about yesterday and asking me to go with him.
Now I feel like I don't want ANYTHING to do with JOe because he'll just go around and nonchalantly tell people about everything that goes down between "us"
Am I being overly dramatic or what? What should I do? (link)
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Well, as you said, you gave him mixed signals.
A lot of guys, when they're confused, like to ask for answers, or at least fish for opinions.
So, it makes sense that if he really likes you, and you said no to homecoming, he'd at least talk to someone because he probably wants to know if he's coming on too strong or something like that.
However, since I don't know what was said about you, I'm only going on what was said.
Point is, I don't think he did anything wrong by talking about you rejecting him. If he started calling you horrible things just for that, then he's a jerk. But again, I don't know what was said.
Good luck and God bless.
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theres this friend that i have. she is like a sister to me, but lately shes been acting very...messed up. for example ill tell her that im going to coney island whatever and she'll start talking about how shes got a boy friend, got new nikes, going to six flags, etc. so im like okay...cool? nd then shes like y did you tell me that? and then im like,...cuz i wanna. nd then she'll be like, well i dont care. nd then ill say whats up with you and she'll be like you shoved something in my face so im shoving sonething bak. i didnt really mean for it 4 seem like that, but yea. ill tell her that and shes like true. then she'll be like you never invite me anywhere. and of course i do, i just dont go places much, so i tell her that. shell be like ok, true, im happy 4 ya. so yes, ill be very pissed by then. i dont know, she has done so many hurtful things to her, and me? like one or two mistakes. but her "gurtful things" arent mistakes, its the way she actually is. so im very confused and mad and hurt, its just a mixture of feelings. i know i luv her very much(as a friend) but i just dont feel like her friend anymore. i dont know what im asking, but i hope you'll be able to know. i guess im asking what i should do. so yea, any advice would be highly appreciated. thankx! (link)
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I hate to say this, but I think your friend is drifting away from you. And probably by her own choice.
One idea you can try is ask just what is going on. Seriously, ask what is causing this wedge between you. Don't be pushy about it. Just ask.
And I hate to add this, but be ready for things not working out as happily. But if it doesn't, then maybe she wasn't as good a friend as you are to her.
Good luck.
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