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A little more than a year ago a friend was diagnosed with cancer. I decided to be optimistic and treated it like it wasn't a big deal. She would go through some unpleasant chemo and then it would be over.

We have kind of a teasing relationship so I made a point of not treating her any differently, while other friends were more sympathetic and altered plans to suit her condition.

Now I've learned that treatments didn't work and they give her about a year. I feel so bad about the way I treated her that I haven't been able to face her since. How can I make amends?

Tell her you didn't want her to think just because of this that you were gonna change your friendship. And tell her it was to keep her comfortable. She will understand.
Most people hate friends being sympathetic and changing their whole relationship.

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15/f

i have this one friend and uhh. she gets me so mad. she doesnt even know this guy, and then she TELLS me to IM him, so i did, and then she tells me i'm messing everything up, and all i said was "Hey im mels friend" OH. and by the way, her name isnt even mel. she made this girl up. and pretends to be some girl named mel, and talks to them and everything. so she got all mad at me, and was like yelling at me. and i was like whats the big deal? you dont even know him. he doesnt even know you. & then so this kid is like yelling his head off at me, and shes like taking his side. and it was just rawrr really patheic.

what should i do?

Tell her the truth and if she wants to be mad its her problem! Tell her you did not do anything.
And also tell her fighting over something as stupid as this makes me wonder if you are really my friend! She mightt be shocked and belike
"Im not mad at you."

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