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Things are just spriling out of control right now. I had a group of friends but two of them got into a fight, therefore one of them left to go to another group and the other one is now hanging out with just her boyfriend. The others are just there, but i dont feel as comfortable to hang out with them anymore. They are mostly with themselves now. That just leaves me! I don't have a lot of other friends, other then them. I just came to this High School hardly knowing anyone. What i need advice on is how can i make new friends to hang out at lunchtime and stuff? I am not popular at all..and frankly thats what its all about in high school unfortuntely. I feel so lonely and "lower on the social ladder". Its hard and i really need some advice. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you
Ok, if those girls are gonna "huff-n-puff" over something stupid that's probably not even worth it, then that's not cool. If the situation's between those two only, then it should affect you or your other friends. High school isn't about staying with only one group of friends. It about meeting new people and having new experiences. Maybe you like sports? Try out for a team or train with someone for the next season. Do you like writing? Join the school newspaper or drama club. Art's your thing? Design posters for the school. Like helping people out? Do volunteer work. High school's what YOU make it, not what you let other people make it. Put yourself out there and meet new people. You'll never know. Maybe you'll meet someone who'll end up being one of your best friends...
Hope this helps! Good luck...
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I am friends with this girl, and all the time she cancels on me. We will make plans like a week in advance or spur of the moment and everytime it seems like she cancels. She always seems to be able to hang out with other people though. She comes from a low income family but we are good friends and she knows she can ask me for money. It is just getting really annoying how she cancels everytime. should i say something to her?? she obviously thinks this is not a problem and for everyone in the group, we are all getting annoyed. but she will turn around to her other friend and blame it all on us?!?! what should i do.
It isn't a good idea to make plans spur of the moment. It's a burden on parents to try to sort out plans with daily errands, family visits, or special events. If you still make plans, then stick to making them in advance.
On another note, you need to examine yourself as well. A friendship takes two. I understand how you're hurt by the cancelled plans, but you and your friends calling her annoying isn't all that great either. She may feel pressured and may talk to the other friend to try to get her opinion out. I don't think either of you understands what situations you both are in. It isn't good to talk about your friends behind their backs, but it isn't good to gain up on her either. It's mainly a situation between the two of you and the two of you alone. Have some one-on-one time with her. Just because someone can't hang out with you all the time, it doesn't mean they aren't your friend. If the one-on-one thing doesn't help, then maybe you two need to take a break from each other. Don't pressure your group of friends to follow your decision either. What relationship they have with your friend is strictly between them and her. If they say anything about it, just say that you don't want to talk about her when she isn't around since you might as well say it to her face...
Good luck with you friend! I hope it works out! Keep me posted!
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OK HELP ME, THIS IS RIDICULOUS! Me and my friends are thorwing a party, and we all somehow agreed to invite atleast 10 of our hot male friends.. I dont have any male friends, but felt embarrassed to say so.. (please dont tell me to tell the truth) I JUST NEED TO MAKE 10 FRIENDS FAST, how the heck do i do this? I dont have the money to join a sports club or anything like that, but please im so scared.. i cant think about anything else.. the nervousity for this party is killing me, i wish i could cancel the wohle thing, but its waaay to late.. PLEASE guys PLEASE help me here.. how do i do this? im desperate and scared¨
thanks for any advice!!
I'm sorry, but I am going to be honest: you need to tell the truth. I know I sound crazy, but your friends should understand if you don't have guy friends. They shouldn't pressure you to do something you don't want to do. But if you really want to get to know some guys, just start talking to them. Guys are usually straightforward, so go straight to the point, but not in a way that seems like you're trying to get out of there as soon as possible. There is no such thing as "fast friends". True friendships are made when you take the time to get to know someone 'cause you're genuinely interested in what they do. If you can't find ten great guy friends, it's ok. One friend who you actually care about is better than ten friends you make just so you can impress you friends.
I hope I helped you! Have fun at your party!
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Okay well there is this girl who I used to be like best friends with, up untill last week when i almost hit her in the cafe, but i didnt want to get introuble so i just cursed at her really load the whole 8th grade hurd me yelling, so ya she had blamed me for teling the whole school that she made out with this boy when she is goin out with this other boy, but i didnt she is the one who told the wrong person and that wrong person told the whole person so not my falt, so then she starts crying and i got mad becuase she has told ever friggen secret that i have ever told her and how many time have i cryed its messed up, other than theat she is just not a good friend, after 2 weeks of dateing her BF she had sex, but then he did her and ran,and she comes to school like naked and she is fat and never stops eating, the point is do you think im right for droping her as a friend or am i wrong?
It's a good thing that you got out of the friendship because a real friend would take the time to find out for herself whether you actually did say something like that. Don't let what she says affect you because that'll just show other people that you're vulnerable and use it against you. You also shouldn't surround yourself with people who do things like that. The girl shouldn't have put her business out in the open if she didn't want people to know in the first place, and that also shows that the person who she trusted enough to tell isn't a real friend to her either.
On another note, control your temper. I understand that you were upset and angry, but like I mentioned earlier, you shouldn't show people that you're prone to anger 'cause they will use it against you. Don't say things that are rude and disrespectful about other people, whether it's true or not. Just remember that whenever you say something about someone behind their back, whether they're your friend or not, they usually end up finding out. Just be ready for the next confrontation you have.
Hope thing'll get better for you. Take care!
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