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*Carrie

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Well, I have this friend, and it seems like every time she gets a boyfriend, she forgets about all of her friends. It drives me crazy b/c we're supposed to be like best friends but everytime she just meets a new guy and like...ditches all of us. And then she wont hang ot with us unless he can come and all she does is like make out in front of us with him. Im getting really annoyed with her but I dont know if i should say something or not...

Wow, sounds tough. I think every girl goes through this at some point. Here is my advice:

Try talking to her about it. Say something like "(name) I really hate it when you drop us all for your boyfriend. I mean, boys are temporary, but friends are forever." If it is the PDA's that freak you out, confront her about it, or simply walk away when they do it. Sorry to say, but you really can't stop it from happening.

Hope this helped...please, fill me in on what happens and I'm always here if you need more advice!
*Carrie

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My bestfriend and I... dont really get along... we can't be around eachother for more then 10 minutes or we'll start fighting.. n i have 2 other bestfriends (all four of us are bestfriends lol) and they think it gets annoying but me and my friend are trying to work it out but we cant.. n i just wanna kno if u think this is a good friendship.. so tell me wat u think.. thanx a bunch!

"My bestfriend and I... dont really get along... we can't be around eachother for more then 10 minutes or we'll start fighting"
That doesn't sound like you are best friends to me! Maybe she isn't worth the pain of fighting so much. I mean, you can't enjoy it, and I'm sure she doesn't either. You should try and talk to her about it, but if all else fails...write her off.
*Carrie

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Ok.. My friend wants to kill her self and when we were at a party she locked her self in a closet and tried to find something sharp to kill her self with and I am really scared for her!

plz help me!

Hey,
Wow, I'm sorry this is happening to you. I have a few questions for you...

1) Why would she announce this at a party? Answer: ATTENTION
--Does she get any attention at home? If not, this is probably her attention "Trump Card"
2) Did you warn her you were going to tell someone? If so, what did she say? If she said something like: "No, no one needs to get involved," it is yet another cry for attention. She wants to be noticed, but doesn't want it getting back to her family.
3) Did you tell someone? If you didn't, you HAVE TO DO IT!!! I personally don't think she is serious, but if she is she needs help. If she isn't, having a nice long talk with the guidance counseler will wake her up to the fact that a suicide threat is a very serious thing, not to be taken lightly.
4) If you want, here is a site about how to talk to a suicidal person: http://www.befrienders.org/suicide/helpfrnd.htm
And the number for the national suicide help line is very simple: 1-800-SUICIDE.

Well, good luck!
*Carrie

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