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Okay so I'm 14 years old and I'm a female. Recently (as in the last couple of days recently) my two best friends said they don't want to be friends with me anymore. Reasons given by friend 1 is that I'm not as good a friend as friend 2 and I'm self-centred and I brush off problems (despite the numerous hours I've spent trying to help both of them with their problems). friend 2 gave similar reasons. I have two other really close friends in our friendship group and yesterday they said they don't want to be friends with me because I'm too clingy. So in the span of two days I've lost literally all my friends. I've been diagnosed with depression, and anxiety- I'm on medication and receiving therapy. I have tried committing suicide once before and constantly think about it. I'm not in school at the moment because the mental health team think I'm not stable enough to be in school. Today all my ex-friends have messaged me about how they're worried about me and some about how they care, etc.
I'm pretty bitter about the situation. They knew I was off school for feeling badly suicidal anyway so I don't see how they thought telling me I'm an awful person in such detail then abandoning me would help. Like they could've just waited until I came back to school and was in a better mental state.
The fact that they've messaged me again has made me feel worse if I'm being honest, and I don't know what to reply. I don't want to reply anything but they probably think I'm dead or something so I don't think it's fair to leave them in a constant state of worry, even if they've hurt me. I'm not okay, I'm feeling really badly suicidal and I'm might be going into hospital- it depends on what they think is best for me right now. So I'd be lying if I tell them I'm okay but at the same time they're not my friends and I don't want to list off about how shit I'm actually feeling. Any ideas on what to reply if anything at all? Thanks
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Hi Beautiful,
I totally get where you're coming from. I'm not here to give you a lecture about the importance of life or how the betrayal of friends at this age is a trivial issue. It matters. But ask yourself a question - whatever it is that you're going through, will it matter in 5 years? The depression, the anxiety will fly away. Trust yourself and me. I'm not going to ask you to be grateful for all the things that could go wrong but haven't, because I know that won't make your situation any better. But I'll ask to hold on to whatever little ray of hope that you find. Hope for a better future, for better people who love you inside out. As far as your friends are concerned, go ahead, reply to them in a concise way. Forgive them, let go of the negativity, not for them but for your inner peace. If you want a break from them? Take it. Make yourself your number one priority because you matter. No one can love you more than you love yourself. Have some faith in yourself. You are capable of everything. Jot down a list of goals you want to achieve and put all your positive energy into attaining them. Get up princess, make a change.
Here are a few songs that help me in my low phases.
1. I'm With You - Avril Lavigne
2. Salted Wound - Sia
3. Innocence - Avril Lavigne
4. Elastic Heart - Sia
5. Let it go - Avril Lavigne
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