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Last Update: August 4, 2016
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So I'm just writing this because I'm getting a little irritated right now, my parents basically ruined my social life while I was in high school because they never let me go out anywhere it was to the point where people just stopped inviting me cause they knew the answer. I remember in grade 10 a girl asked me if I ever leave the house cause she has never heard people mention my name at social gatherings or whatever (stupid I know). Finally grade 11&12 they started being a little more lenient and let me go out sometimes by sometimes I mean once a month. Now it's summer vacation anytime my friends ask me to go out my parents say no I have to stay home cause it's not safe out there (this is my last summer I'm gonna spend with my friends cause of university in September). Other people I know based on their snapchat stories go out every single day, some stay out till 5:00am but if I go out once that month I can't go out at all. My parents are also treating my 16 year old sister like this as well, last summer she ended up losing a friend because the girl said "you didn't want to hangout with me all summer and I figured that parent excuse was just you were of saying you didn't wanna hangout with me" so after that they stopped talking. Now her other friends invite her out and my parents would say "no because I'm at work so you have to stay home" they go to work every single day and whenever they're home (rarely) they still say no. Have you guys heard of the term bubble wrap parents? I'm almost 18 years old and if they continue to keep me this sheltered lord knows how I'll be when I'm older. Because of how sheltered my sister and I are sometimes we are to scared to walk home alone on our street because usually when we walk my mom finds a way to tag along so when she's not there we get scared. Anyways my question is how do I get my parents to let us leave to house and stop sheltering us so much? They expect us to be sociable and extroverted but how can we be that if we're always inside? Every summer I have cabin fever and I'm tired of it I can't take it any longer I need to leave this house and go hang out with friends (July is almost over and I kid you not the only time I hung out with friends was July 7th and since then I've had friends make plans with me and I wasn't allowed to go, for example a friend asked me to hangout with her at her house and my mom said "what are you gonna do at her house? Stay home" and sometimes that girl would ask me to go with her to like an amusement park and my mom would say "why does she always like going out to expensive places? Stay home" so I can't go to her house and I can't go out at all?) anyways my sister and I are 16&17 year old females (link)
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You should sit down with your parents and have a chat with them. At your age it is really good for you to go out often and meet up with friends as it can improve your social life and overall benefit you in the future. I am a 14 year old male myself and I enjoy going out and meeting up with friends all the time.
It's good to know that your parents are thinking about your safety but I just think that they are overall to over protective. You also stated that your parents treat your sister the same. You should convince her to talk to your parents as well because if the too of you speak to them it should have more of an impact.
As for your social life there are clear indications that by staying indoors for so long is affecting your friendship with others negatively. If your parents do consider letting you go out more you should speak to your friends and explain that your parents were strict and didn't let you out often but have since had a change of heart and decided to let you go outside more often.
I have the best of wishes for you. I hope the situation is resolved quickly. Goodluck!
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I'm at rock bottom. I have been having suicidal thoughts the last couple of days. I am experiencing a great deal of emotional pain. I am not happy with where my life is at. I am disappointed people. I want to be loved, supported, nurtured and uplifted. I want to be in a loving relationship. But the only thing the universe has given me is heartache. I want to be hopeful and have been. However, it leads to disappointments. I have to admit I want someone to save me. I'm broken and I don't know how much longer I can live like this. (link)
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Don't give up. I too once felt like I wanted to commit suicide. I was unhappy living with my abusive mother. But right now I am living the perfect life. All I did was move in with my father and forced myself to improve my life. I was very socially awkward so I got out a lot and mate friends which helped me overcome this. I was very weak and couldn't fight so I did and still currently do strength workouts and attend martial art classes.
I was also terrible at doing simple daily tasks
such as cooking, using the washing machine etc so I asked my parents to teach me and now I can use them. You have to push yourself and train to fix whatever is making your life bad. Several months I suffered under the hands of my mother and I worked up and intern I am now free from her evil grasp.
I know it's a lot to read but please read it all. I wanted a girl to love and some one to help me but it never happened. I have a girl now though after all this hard work and you can get one too. Goodluck!
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