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Q: lauren and i have been best friends since 6th grade, now were freshman. we always have had major fights over stupid things that last a while or not long at all. well weve been good for a while now, not much fighting but shes like never satisfied with her froup of friends, like we have one group thats like our normal friends that she has over her house. then in school, she has to be the center of attention and is like friends with like everyone and now people are talking i think. shes gone from britt in 6th grade, to me, (big fight, during the fight) mel, then me, then now sarah and nicole and now back to me. as best friends. i feel hurt because i dont know why she does that and i dont want to leave her because when we are at our best its awesome. so ive been good friends with britt for a long time and shes kind of person who doesnt care what people think and is a bitch at times. well she talks a lot of shit but is really funny. lauren hates her, well maybe not hate, i guess doesnt like/trust and i dont trust her either but we went to the mall tonight and were talking over coffee and she started talking about all ^ (and laurens boyfriend problems, they break up a million times a month) so thinking id be a good friend, i texted lauren to tell her all of what britt told me and now lauren is mad at me, she said "ashlee wanna know the truth, now i dont trust you because your hanging out with britney so i gotta go bye." like omg i dont have a big group of friends like she does, i need britt because im not good at making friends (i can talk easily to people but like getting to the hanging out point im awful at) so with britt shes normally around. i just dont know what to say (lauren gets defensive and can turn the whole conversation around and make it my fault) i dont think she takes the truth well. i dont know what to do so that i can be her best friend i understand high school changes people and i accept her new ways i just wanna stop the fighting and be back to normal and have her stop leaving me for sarah. also i need to find a hanging out group of friends...

HELP PLEASEEE

this is tough. I have had MANY friend problems. I am a junior in highschool so im telling the truth when i say this is only the begginning. me and my best friend just stopped being friends too, but i have learned to just let it go and give some space. You could try talking to her calmly, just the two of you, without bringing anything up, and see if she goes back to normal..but she shouldnt be leaving you for other people all the time. She is probably just curious and wants everyone to like her..thats normal. You need to find more friends though, dont waste all your time on just one, have many!!! So stick yourself out there and find other people to hang out with...over time she will miss you and things will cool down and everything will be better :)
-itslovedarling

Q: So, me & this girl just started being friends again sometime around the end of February. Well, we're sort of getting closer & hanging out more often. But when she comes over, I never have any idea of what to do, but I don't want us to just sit there, you know? & she's spending the night this weekend. So, any ideas of what we can do?

Ok well it seems like you have a strong start :) so just stay calm with her and have fun. Girls like it when guys are open and sweet, so make her feel special. watch a chick flick, such as a walk to remember or the notebook..have some popcorn and cuddle on the couch..that will keep you busy for like an hour and a half. Maybe suggest a game like twister or something where touching is involved :) Or you could go for a walk and just talk, it'd be a good chance to really show her how much you like her. :) & make sure she's comfortable when she goes to bed.